u/ErrorOk1613

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I asked her out - whats the verdict

Sent her this morning: "You free sometime this week? We should go to [venue]. [followed by a relevant inside joke]"

She replied within minutes, asking if I was free on Saturday. I said I have work. She then corrected my inattentive ADHD brain — "Maybe not this week lol" — and sent a screenshot showing the venue is closed for most of this week. Then asked what days I was free next week. I said only Mon-Wed. She responded:

"Let's wait till the week after then" — (so likely 20th or 21st).

She did the logistical checks. She worked around two scheduling conflicts to keep the plan alive. That's not how disinterested responses look. "I'm busy" is one message. This was four.

The odds aren't 90% but they're well above a coin flip. We have a rough plan and a venue. I was paranoid the entire time — 130bpm sitting down over a Snapchat. Apple Watch called me out lol.

Agree I should have checked their website first. You could argue I could have switched to a different place, but this one aligns with the inside joke between us. And complicating it would paint the picture that I'm desperate.

My work schedule is busy - full-time employed and doing MBA, so scheduling this may be hard - but she remembers this.

CONTEXT (ORIGINAL POST)

She (21F, INFP) and I have known each other for 4 years. I've seen her romantically for about a year, and the signs have gradually become less and less platonically defensible.

A few weeks ago, after a group dinner, she was in my car outside her place and, unprompted, said — with a nervous chuckle, my parents aren't home, then slower and warmer: We can definitely meet up sometime.

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u/ErrorOk1613 — 1 day ago

Is the door open on this slowburn?

21M asking out a girl I've liked for a year or so...

She (21F, INFP) and I have known each other for 4 years. I've seen her romantically for about a year, and the signs have gradually become less and less platonically defensible.

A few weeks ago, after a group dinner, she was in my car outside her place and, unprompted, said — with a nervous chuckle, my parents aren't home, then slower and warmer: We can definitely meet up sometime.

Today, I sent her a dessert shop photo with a caption. She heart-reacted it, came back within minutes asking about the place, then heard of it but had never been there, might try it sometime."

Not a cold interaction, but only a slightly open door. It feels like a coin flip - is this an open door - ask her out?

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u/ErrorOk1613 — 2 days ago