Got ghosted and blocked randomly?? I am confused and disheartened.
So I (23F) a couple months ago i had replied to this guy's (22-23M) story who goes to the same uni as me. That was our first conversation.Beyond replying for what was on the story we also spoke a bit about other things related to this and that (relevant to the topic that I had replied to the story too). It was a chill conversation and it was nice talking to him as compared to the few guys I had spoken with before, he seemed enthusiastic in the conversation and replied pretty quick too unlike the dry texters or ghosters. (Note- we go to the same uni but we have never seen each other before). I will admit I followed him with a bit of interest, but this conversation that I started was just out of genuine shared interest that he had posted on his story about.
After that I was the one who replied to his story a couple more times and each time he was really friendly, chill and also making conversation with me. We have only ever texted on instagram DMs and these texting sessions would be like 45 min- 1 hr long and then after that it'd just end.
After a certain point, I started to wonder if he was just being nice or did he also equally want to talk with me as much as I did. And, I came to the conclsuion he probably is just being courteous enough to reply nothing above and beyond that and I am only romanticizing the interactions with him because it has been rare of me to be treated with basic kindness & decency especially coming from a guy (which i realized sometime in the middle of all of this).So I stopped hoping and I also stopped being the one to always text first, because I kinda got it he isn't even interested in me like that.
Until.. one day he randomly added me to his close friends??? I was kinda confused then. Like we havent talked in weeks-months. We don't even know each other that well except the 3-4 one hour long chats, and as mentioned we have never even seen each other irl as we are from totally different depts. But I still didnt reply. I wondered for a bit it it meanth anything, but then came to the conslusion it doesn't mean anything at all and I'm reading into it too much.
Anyways, one of the days I was clearing up my phone storage and came across a lot pictures from the past year and winter break so I spammed on my close-friends story, where I added him as well... It was kinda like you added me so here, you get added too. And then he replied to one of my stories. And, then that night we actually texted beyond the surface level stuff. If I think about it now, maybe it meant nothing to him but, I felt like he actually opened up to me and shared about his vulnerabilities and so did I. I realized we are very much alike. He also indirectly told me he is single this and thattt, asked me when is my birthday, our plans after graduating, our pasts, likings, hobbies, etc. like you get the vibe we were basically getting along pretty well and also getting to know each other.
After this, we both texted each other quite frequently and i hate to be that person who folds sooo fast but, getting his notifications and messages really made my day. Another imp thing I'd like to add is I could talk to him about anyyythingggg. He seemed like a nice and chill guy and, in this day and age he also replied pretty quickly with equal interest regardless the time of the day. Around this time I think we really got to know each other, it wasn't just either of us talking but both of us were part of the conversation. So I thought we were getting along pretty well. I even thought to myself like mayyybeeee he also has a tinnyyyyy bit interest in me??? Mayybeeee.
Tbh, although I did say I had interest in him, I won't say that I 100% liked him romantically, I was only getting to know him better and figuring stuff out.
Anyways, a couple a days ago or about a week ago, we were just texting each other usually and normally, He seemed just as he was, chill, grounded, willing to listen to me and share his own story. So there came this one topic which has been quite scarring experience to both of us, and then just as we were talking I shared and about a story related to the crappy situation we were in but on a slightly different tangent. While texting this looong story out to him, I took a small break to go have dinner and come back to continue where I left off. Right before this he was like even lowkey comforting me as to how crappy of a situation he too was in and that it's alright, yadayadayaaaa. But... here is where all things started crumbling down.
So after dinner I took the time to type out the remaining story to him painstakingly to explain all the events, and he didn't even read it. He left me on delivered for quite a few days. I gave him the time and benefit of doubt like maybe, he's busy, maybe he forgot, etc etc. After few more days it started to bother me. So I texted him again like I wrote- all of that typing for him to not read, or if I overwhelmed him with wayyyy too many messages (bad move, ik).
After a couple of hours his reply still didn't come so I kinda got it, like now it's over he aint gon' reply ever. I was embarassed about having double texted and still left on delivered so i unsent the messages asking why he hasn't read it yet (maybe even worse decision). I have to admit, that this during this week's period I miserably checked my instagram a gazillon times hoping his reply came, or maybe he reacted to the mesaages.
But today when i checked i found out he left me on seen and blocked me. I can't help but feel upset and confused. There were a couple of times where he left me on delivered but those messages were basically like not something you haddd to reply to, but blocking just made me feel a different level of agony. Now I have been wondering was it because:
A. It felt like I was trauma dumping on him (to my defence, I will say by the time I told him about this we had converesed pretty much a lot and about other deep stuff too, moreover what i shared with him according to me isn't even that bad of a traumatizing situation, just a bad sitaution i was caught up in)
B. Perhaps, I am not in the social class or wealth group he'd prefer to have a girl he's talking with (through the conversations I did figure out he came from a much wealthier background, he shared tid-bits about it)
C. Maybe he was confused and he got influenced by other people to like just cut ties (I have seen and heard this thing about guys that they really want to impress their guy friends, so in the pursuit of that sometimes, they do leave out on possibly good connections)
D. Maybe, he found me uncool after sharing the story, tbh i don't know if he read or not.
Like I really don't know. I am so sad about this, when I figured out he not only ghosted on me but also blocked me I felt my stomach drop into this pit of uneasiness. He seemed just so nice before, it came off so randomly. I don't know what to feel or understand, I thought atleast he could be a good friend but I think after this I for sure will stay away from guys for a loooong looong time. (Cuz the ones before this also always ghosted me or left me on seen/ delivered)