u/Emotional_Moose_3019

hi everyone! i’m 22F and my boyfriend is 25M. we’ve been together for a little over a year and joined the church a few months ago.

before we joined, we did not really follow any of the teachings of the Bible such as abstinence. unfortunately, we were both in relationships before where we had sex with others. after we joined the church, we decided that we should try to stop having sex until we possibly get married.

however, it’s been very difficult. i feel like im a temptation to him every time we hang out and i feel guilty. sometimes he initiates, and sometimes i do and i just feel so guilty.

yesterday was the first time i kept saying “no” to try to hold us both accountable, but he kept trying to do it and asking me. so i eventually let him. i cried for the first time after because i felt so guilty. i’m honestly feeling like we should break up because we can’t control ourselves and im causing a major source of guilt for him.

any advice appreciated

i’m F22 and work as a 911 dispatcher. when my boyfriend and i first started going to church, i would go to vespers but only he could do divine liturgy because i worked weekends all day. that was for the first two months.

then, i got on a shift where i started work at 9 PM sunday, but if i stayed away for like 24 hours i could still go to church, so i did for four months.

i just got the new schedule from shift bids and im working all day on sundays again. this will last four months, then we’ll pick again but its always a good chance i will work sundays.

working on this day means i cannot attend service, have community time (our large meal we have after service), or go to catechism class. the only thing i can attend are vespers. i’m supposed to absorb information and worship, but can’t get anything or form relationships in my church because i will literally never be there.

i’m honestly considering giving up. idk what to do. my life will probably be like this forever, never sure what shift will be coming in four months. i’ll never really be able to be a part of my church.

i’m F22 and work as a 911 dispatcher. when my boyfriend and i first started going to church, i would go to vespers but only he could do divine liturgy because i worked weekends all day. that was for the first two months.

then, i got on a shift where i started work at 9 PM sunday, but if i stayed away for like 24 hours i could still go to church, so i did for four months.

i just got the new schedule from shift bids and im working all day on sundays again. this will last four months, then we’ll pick again but its always a good chance i will work sundays.

working on this day means i cannot attend service, have community time (our large meal we have after service), or go to catechism class. the only thing i can attend are vespers. i’m supposed to absorb information and worship, but can’t get anything or form relationships in my church because i will literally never be there.

i’m honestly considering giving up. idk what to do. my life will probably be like this forever, never sure what shift will be coming in four months. i’ll never really be able to be a part of my church.

i’m F22 and work as a 911 dispatcher. when my boyfriend and i first started going to church, i would go to vespers but only he could do divine liturgy because i worked weekends all day. that was for the first two months.

then, i got on a shift where i started work at 9 PM sunday, but if i stayed away for like 24 hours i could still go to church, so i did for four months.

i just got the new schedule from shift bids and im working all day on sundays again. this will last four months, then we’ll pick again but its always a good chance i will work sundays.

working on this day means i cannot attend service, have community time (our large meal we have after service), or go to catechism class. the only thing i can attend are vespers. i’m supposed to absorb information and worship, but can’t get anything or form relationships in my church because i will literally never be there.

i’m honestly considering giving up. idk what to do. my life will probably be like this forever, never sure what shift will be coming in four months. i’ll never really be able to be a part of my church.

i’m F22 and work as a 911 dispatcher. when my boyfriend and i first started going to church, i would go to vespers but only he could do divine liturgy because i worked weekends all day. that was for the first two months.

then, i got on a shift where i started work at 9 PM sunday, but if i stayed away for like 24 hours i could still go to church, so i did for four months.

i just got the new schedule from shift bids and im working all day on sundays again. this will last four months, then we’ll pick again but its always a good chance i will work sundays.

working on this day means i cannot attend service, have community time (our large meal we have after service), or go to catechism class. the only thing i can attend are vespers. i’m supposed to absorb information and worship, but can’t get anything or form relationships in my church because i will literally never be there.

i’m honestly considering giving up. idk what to do. my life will probably be like this forever, never sure what shift will be coming in four months. i’ll never really be able to be a part of my church.