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Hey y’all, this is kinda embarrassing to post 😅 but is anyone here going to the Bieberchella event at Soul Kitchen? I really wanna go, but I’m honestly nervous about showing up by myself. None of my friends are into that kinda music/vibe, so I figured I’d ask here instead of potentially standing around awkwardly all night lol.
Not looking for anything weird — just maybe other people going who wouldn’t mind chatting or hanging out at the event. Please be nice, posting this already has my anxiety working overtime 😂
Also before anyone worries, I already promised my people I’d be safe 😂 I’ll have my location on all night and I won’t be drinking either. I’m just trying to have fun and not let my anxiety stop me from going.

Hey y’all, this is a little out of my comfort zone but I could really use some advice 🫣

I recently got out of a 5-year relationship on New Year’s Eve, and I’ve started seeing someone new. I really, really like him, and the chemistry between us is honestly amazing. The sex has been great, but I’m realizing I’m basically relearning everything with a new partner and it’s been… an adjustment.

For context, I’m plus-size (5’4”) and I’ve always been the bigger person in bed. My ex was 5’0”, so things felt more “even,” but this new guy is 5’11” and the dynamic is completely different. I’m also naturally more submissive, and he’s stepped into a dominant role really easily—like the dirty talk, the energy, even light “punishments”… it’s all 🔥 but also new for me in this way.

A couple things I’ve been struggling with:

• When I try to get on top, it’s hard to guide things in, especially since things can get pretty slippery. It feels awkward and kills my confidence a bit.
• Condoms have been kind of a hindrance. I have an IUD (from my last relationship where we didn’t use them), so this is something I’m getting used to again.
• I want to be more confident and skilled, especially since we’re starting to explore toys and even some light bondage (he got a kit and we’re both interested in expanding that).

I guess I’m just looking for advice from other plus-size folks (or anyone really) on:

• Positions that work well with a height/size difference
• Tips for getting on top without the awkward struggle 😅
• How to feel more confident and “in control” even when being submissive
• Any general advice on being a better, more attentive sexual partner

I haven’t felt this excited to connect with someone in a long time, and I really want to enjoy this and grow with it instead of overthinking myself out of it.

Thanks in advance for being kind 💕