u/Emotional-Cook4973

I just want genuine advice .Its been two years sice that breakup of mine.i met my girlfriend during the time of JEE .She was in her drop year and i was in class 12th ..Nearly in every test in 11th of mains or advanced i used to score too good like i had potential of acheving 4 to 5 k rank easily in both mains and advanced.This girl came into my life i had never been in a relationship i instantly fell for her .Before that i used to like a girl who gave me mixed signals and i used to talk to her for like 7 to 8 min for 3 to 4 days in week that through only text ..But when i came in relationship with that dropper girl she told me about her past 1 ex boyfriend in class 9th or 10th and multiple male bestfriends one in 10th immediately after her breakup from her ex boyfriend one in class 11th and one in class 12th and she used to talk to multiple guys which i could figure out she had a very deep involvement with her male besties .All feel for her she did not say them that its over when they said they liked her she was still friends..one of her male best friens used to sleep with girls she used to talk to him for 3 to 4 hours during that imp phase of jee she cared for him but fights happended and they all left her ..

i used to also talk to her for hours becuase of the honeymoon phase but then my parents came to know about all that they became very angry on me because they saw i was neglecting my studies ..so i said her we need to study else and we need to build ourseleves in order to ake this relationship work for life..She used to have too much male friends from my batch as well all used to talk to her used to share her privacy like i am having my periods bla bla and all that 2 boys and 1 girl group used vulgar language in front of each other ..when we stooped talking or even if we talked she used to talk to them help them in studies but never me.Not to forget there was another guy from her 12th class whom she used to call her brother ..

Days went by and first jee mains came and that the time of jan she told me we wont talk becuase of jee being near even for 5 min a day .I said take your time and study.. i scored 99.5 and she got 92 she felt bad that i scored much higher and she got less did not even congratulate me or push me higher which i understand that anyone whoscores less wont be able to but i called her to say her that its okay we will see your faults and i gave her time tables queston banks which i told her before jee mains as well but she wasnt interested and literally i gave her one of my teachers phone no who used to teach my brother during his jee days with the help of whom my brther scored a great rank in advanced

but she went to study with a 90 mark guy from our class said she feels more comforatble with him i said feel bad about that why do u need somone else when u have me for the same profession i can obviously guide u better the guy as usual he said i like u ignoring that time went by she did not use to study always said negative things slept all day i still said her its your last chance dont waste it she watched dirty things just to make her mind feel relaxed ..Some guys from my class said her leave him(me) her male friends obviiously tera zyada der nhi chalne vala uske sath she did not even say a word just laughed ..she always used to be jealous of the girl i liked before her because there was never a relationship she could say much one day that girl called me said various things that i like u now butt i just ignored her and never talked to hr she said come to my house we will sort the things but i never went there..My girlfirend became more jealous said u went to meet her i said i never met her ..i used to talk to for for 5 to 8 minutes that to on text.Things went by friction statrted building and one day i was going to sleep at 4am after studing for advnced just one month prior and what i saw was the snapchats form a guy which i ttold about earlier whom she used to call a brother .She always went to him for crying for hours and sharing her heart out because i was busy studying i ignored that but i felt too bad at those times and that day as well she cried to him for literally 3 hours and she said to him uske pass 5 min bhi ni itna ky busy hogya and he said dekhle fhir tuje rehna ha ya nhi and all more stuff they talked about..take care good night.

i felt emotionally cheated an there is a limit the only special thing betweeen us was ruined emotional intimicay that too being outsoured and what if i dont have time i was working for the shared future for both of us .I aint doing any bad thing at that time i too had a dream of achieving a good rank like my brother .the next day i went outide my home to talk to her i was too angry at her said her to many things and then i said her u just want to talk to guys so that u can feel good . u have 3 hours to talk to somone in this crucial time .she said u assassinated my character ..

literally the next day she broke up witn me left me like it was nothig all the moments hared all things all promises ruined .i went into depression becuase i loved her to deeply did not study for a whle month just cried and cried and cried but she did not care results came i did not qualify because i was literally in too much pain ..i cried in my mothers lap at the result day ..what coudl they say dont worry u did good in mains atleast .She said i told u from very beginning that she saint very serious abut u and does not care about exams.

time went by i did not heal was in same pain and depression even after going to collage then after 3 months she contacted again said if u say me sorry for the words i will comeback .her male friends literally had her phone and they talked to me and said dont make her upset and one guy litrally shared her photo while i was texting with her that dekh tune kitna kimti heera khoya ha and her male friends even said to her that i flirst with girls in my collage ..I became too angry how can someone that too males come between our very private thing i did not even look at a girl in my collage flirsting is a very far ahead thing i was in pain and depresion all the time and that i cried whenever i saw her online and u think i could do all this.

i decided not to go back but now after 2 years just 2 months ago she came back again an said that i dated mutiple guys talked to them for hours but i find u in everyone .I knew she enjoyed her collage life did dance sports talked to guys trips and all but here i was sad in my room all day becuase of the deep connection i had with her . i felt bad and angry i said her too many vulgar words becuase i was pushed to my breaking point

she said u again said bad thing about my character and said i hope all ur daughter finds somone like u and all that i said u arent having values havent being upbrought right (i know i said too much but i was hurt too much after all these years she came just to say i dated and found u too much selfish thing) u just cant outsource the very sacred bond between us and she litrally just cried in front of her male friend just before calling me that i miss him and when he said go to him she called me and her male freinds also said when i callled her again that leave chutiyap hi hoga and she laughed this is the respect she gave me and asked and argued that her self respect was ruined in the relationship

its been two months since that thing she aint bothered as usual i know new instagram id doing fun things must be talking to new guys but here am i still feeling pain for somone who m i wanted to suceedd more than i ever wanted to .she never even aksed my rank of mains and advanced .. i dont know she ever loved me or not but i did very deeply she just loved the safe place i gave her else everything could be outsourced from outside ..she said she worked hard ..but i dodnt see it her effort in consulting me to do the right thing .A 90 mark guy cant tell u what u lacked while giving paper i could because i understood her more than everyone

i had my bitsat and boards as well how could i give her so much time and the things other boys told i told her the same multiple times i was more busy than her she was a dropper free from boards

if only solving ques could give u a rank and studying 5 to 10 days before could give a good rank everyone would have got it but she denies it by saying i worked to hard it wasnt in my luck .My mother knows all this i have cried to her multiple times that i loved her and am i narrow minded as said her for wanting the sacred bond to be shared only with me her personal body details only with me .She made me understand its not your fault time will make her understand all this in life but i still think about her . I have never felt happiness from that moment of breakup everything ruined i just work now because i never wanna feel the loss of advnced like thing again i scored good in mains bitsat boards advance was the only thing remaing and she ruined but all she has to say u ruined my prep because all the time i was the one thinking about you .I once felt bad that i should not have too much becuase then she would have been with me (i was attched too much with her).i just want geuine advice that am i really expecting too much and is wanting exclusivity wrong?

even after all these things i think about her sometimes maybe becuase she was the only girl involved with me..I hope this pain fades away it has alreasy ruined me as a person and sharing this helps me release some part of my pain i never felt cared supported or felt a depp connection whcih i gave she could support every other male but not me

I just want genuine advice .Its been two years sice that breakup of mine.i met my girlfriend during the time of JEE .She was in her drop year and i was in class 12th ..Nearly in every test in 11th of mains or advanced i used to score too good like i had potential of acheving 4 to 5 k rank easily in both mains and advanced.This girl came into my life i had never been in a relationship i instantly fell for her .Before that i used to like a girl who gave me mixed signals and i used to talk to her for like 7 to 8 min for 3 to 4 days in week that through only text ..But when i came in relationship with that dropper girl she told me about her past 1 ex boyfriend in class 9th or 10th and multiple male bestfriends one in 10th immediately after her breakup from her ex boyfriend one in class 11th and one in class 12th and she used to talk to multiple guys which i could figure out she had a very deep involvement with her male besties .All feel for her she did not say them that its over when they said they liked her she was still friends..one of her male best friens used to sleep with girls she used to talk to him for 3 to 4 hours during that imp phase of jee she cared for him but fights happended and they all left her ..

i used to also talk to her for hours becuase of the honeymoon phase but then my parents came to know about all that they became very angry on me because they saw i was neglecting my studies ..so i said her we need to study else and we need to build ourseleves in order to ake this relationship work for life..She used to have too much male friends from my batch as well all used to talk to her used to share her privacy like i am having my periods bla bla and all that 2 boys and 1 girl group used vulgar language in front of each other ..when we stooped talking or even if we talked she used to talk to them help them in studies but never me.Not to forget there was another guy from her 12th class whom she used to call her brother ..

Days went by and first jee mains came and that the time of jan she told me we wont talk becuase of jee being near even for 5 min a day .I said take your time and study.. i scored 99.5 and she got 92 she felt bad that i scored much higher and she got less did not even congratulate me or push me higher which i understand that anyone whoscores less wont be able to but i called her to say her that its okay we will see your faults and i gave her time tables queston banks which i told her before jee mains as well but she wasnt interested and literally i gave her one of my teachers phone no who used to teach my brother during his jee days with the help of whom my brther scored a great rank in advanced

but she went to study with a 90 mark guy from our class said she feels more comforatble with him i said feel bad about that why do u need somone else when u have me for the same profession i can obviously guide u better the guy as usual he said i like u ignoring that time went by she did not use to study always said negative things slept all day i still said her its your last chance dont waste it she watched dirty things just to make her mind feel relaxed ..Some guys from my class said her leave him(me) her male friends obviiously tera zyada der nhi chalne vala uske sath she did not even say a word just laughed ..she always used to be jealous of the girl i liked before her because there was never a relationship she could say much one day that girl called me said various things that i like u now butt i just ignored her and never talked to hr she said come to my house we will sort the things but i never went there..My girlfirend became more jealous said u went to meet her i said i never met her ..i used to talk to for for 5 to 8 minutes that to on text.Things went by friction statrted building and one day i was going to sleep at 4am after studing for advnced just one month prior and what i saw was the snapchats form a guy which i ttold about earlier whom she used to call a brother .She always went to him for crying for hours and sharing her heart out because i was busy studying i ignored that but i felt too bad at those times and that day as well she cried to him for literally 3 hours and she said to him uske pass 5 min bhi ni itna ky busy hogya and he said dekhle fhir tuje rehna ha ya nhi and all more stuff they talked about..take care good night.

i felt emotionally cheated an there is a limit the only special thing betweeen us was ruined emotional intimicay that too being outsoured and what if i dont have time i was working for the shared future for both of us .I aint doing any bad thing at that time i too had a dream of achieving a good rank like my brother .the next day i went outide my home to talk to her i was too angry at her said her to many things and then i said her u just want to talk to guys so that u can feel good . u have 3 hours to talk to somone in this crucial time .she said u assassinated my character ..

literally the next day she broke up witn me left me like it was nothig all the moments hared all things all promises ruined .i went into depression becuase i loved her to deeply did not study for a whle month just cried and cried and cried but she did not care results came i did not qualify because i was literally in too much pain ..i cried in my mothers lap at the result day ..what coudl they say dont worry u did good in mains atleast .She said i told u from very beginning that she saint very serious abut u and does not care about exams.

time went by i did not heal was in same pain and depression even after going to collage then after 3 months she contacted again said if u say me sorry for the words i will comeback .her male friends literally had her phone and they talked to me and said dont make her upset and one guy litrally shared her photo while i was texting with her that dekh tune kitna kimti heera khoya ha and her male friends even said to her that i flirst with girls in my collage ..I became too angry how can someone that too males come between our very private thing i did not even look at a girl in my collage flirsting is a very far ahead thing i was in pain and depresion all the time and that i cried whenever i saw her online and u think i could do all this.

i decided not to go back but now after 2 years just 2 months ago she came back again an said that i dated mutiple guys talked to them for hours but i find u in everyone .I knew she enjoyed her collage life did dance sports talked to guys trips and all but here i was sad in my room all day becuase of the deep connection i had with her . i felt bad and angry i said her too many vulgar words becuase i was pushed to my breaking point

she said u again said bad thing about my character and said i hope all ur daughter finds somone like u and all that i said u arent having values havent being upbrought right (i know i said too much but i was hurt too much after all these years she came just to say i dated and found u too much selfish thing) u just cant outsource the very sacred bond between us and she litrally just cried in front of her male friend just before calling me that i miss him and when he said go to him she called me and her male freinds also said when i callled her again that leave chutiyap hi hoga and she laughed this is the respect she gave me and asked and argued that her self respect was ruined in the relationship

its been two months since that thing she aint bothered as usual i know new instagram id doing fun things must be talking to new guys but here am i still feeling pain for somone who m i wanted to suceedd more than i ever wanted to .she never even aksed my rank of mains and advanced .. i dont know she ever loved me or not but i did very deeply she just loved the safe place i gave her else everything could be outsourced from outside ..she said she worked hard ..but i dodnt see it her effort in consulting me to do the right thing .A 90 mark guy cant tell u what u lacked while giving paper i could because i understood her more than everyone

i had my bitsat and boards as well how could i give her so much time and the things other boys told i told her the same multiple times i was more busy than her she was a dropper free from boards

if only solving ques could give u a rank and studying 5 to 10 days before could give a good rank everyone would have got it but she denies it by saying i worked to hard it wasnt in my luck .My mother knows all this i have cried to her multiple times that i loved her and am i narrow minded as said her for wanting the sacred bond to be shared only with me her personal body details only with me .She made me understand its not your fault time will make her understand all this in life but i still think about her . I have never felt happiness from that moment of breakup everything ruined i just work now because i never wanna feel the loss of advnced like thing again i scored good in mains bitsat boards advance was the only thing remaing and she ruined but all she has to say u ruined my prep because all the time i was the one thinking about you .I once felt bad that i should not have too much becuase then she would have been with me (i was attched too much with her).i just want geuine advice that am i really expecting too much and is wanting exclusivity wrong?

even after all these things i think about her sometimes maybe becuase she was the only girl involved with me..I hope this pain fades away it has alreasy ruined me as a person and sharing this helps me release some part of my pain i never felt cared supported or felt a depp connection whcih i gave she could support every other male but not me