u/EmoLaw

My bf and I have been dating for 3 months. He met my parents and sister the other day for lunch and I left thinking it went very well. I was confident he left a good impression with them. He acted like himself and I had fun. My sister said she thought we were a good match, that hes funny, and that she noticed he kept looking at me the entire time.

However, when I got home, my parents completely surprised me with their opinions of him. My dad, who is a very easy going guy, said he wasn't impressed and didnt appreciate my bf's mannerisms. That shattered my expectations.

Later, I asked my mom, and she told me a lot more. She said she doesn't think he treats me right/respects me. She said she thought he always seemed to be talking down to me, and at one point at lunch when I had to repeat my order to our waitress several times since she was hard of hearing, he was just shaking his head. There were a couple moments where my bf would turn to me and reference tidbits about our friends as a side convo, but my mom said most of it sounded like he was just talking bad about them. I tried to assure her that a lot of it was just inside jokes/theres a lot more context to it and that it was just a teasing way.

She further explained that if this was how he behaved every time hes around that that would be a big problem. Looking back, it is true he acted about the same way he does around me and less formally as one would when meeting parents. Im sure that mightve been a little off-putting.

But now Im questioning his whole character. I cant tell if he's actually not treating me right and I simply cant tell bc hes my first serious relationship. Can he be a bit abrasive? Yes. Is he kind of a negative person? Yes. Does he have character flaws? Absolutely, we all do. But we have fun together, we get along, etc. I started panicking a little bit and Im not sure what to do. Im just crushed that they dont like him, and very humiliated as well. Should I tell my bf what they said?

I have a good relationship with my parents and they truly are people who want the very best for me. Im their firstborn daughter and this was the first time they've met one of their children's partner. How can I evaluate if he's actually good for me and to me?

My bf and I have been dating for 3 months. He met my parents and sister the other day for lunch and I left thinking it went very well. I was confident he left a good impression with them. He acted like himself and I had fun. My sister said she thought we were a good match, that hes funny, and that she noticed he kept looking at me the entire time.

However, when I got home, my parents completely surprised me with their opinions of him. My dad, who is a very easy going guy, said he wasn't impressed and didnt appreciate my bf's mannerisms. That shattered my expectations.

Later, I asked my mom, and she told me a lot more. She said she doesn't think he treats me right/respects me. She said she thought he always seemed to be talking down to me, and at one point at lunch when I had to repeat my order to our waitress several times since she was hard of hearing, he was just shaking his head. There were a couple moments where my bf would turn to me and reference tidbits about our friends as a side convo, but my mom said most of it sounded like he was just talking bad about them. I tried to assure her that a lot of it was just inside jokes/theres a lot more context to it and that it was just a teasing way.

She further explained that if this was how he behaved every time hes around that that would be a big problem. Looking back, it is true he acted about the same way he does around me and less formally as one would when meeting parents. Im sure that mightve been a little off-putting.

But now Im questioning his whole character. I cant tell if he's actually not treating me right and I simply cant tell bc hes my first serious relationship. Can he be a bit abrasive? Yes. Is he kind of a negative person? Yes. Does he have character flaws? Absolutely, we all do. But we have fun together, we get along, etc. I started panicking a little bit and Im not sure what to do. Im just crushed that they dont like him, and very humiliated as well. Should I tell my bf what they said?

I have a good relationship with my parents and they truly are people who want the very best for me. Im their firstborn daughter and this was the first time they've met one of their children's partner. How can I evaluate if he's actually good for me and to me?