u/Embarrassed-Age5514

Since my teens, I have struggled with my "femininity", "sexuality", or whatever you might call it. I do not mean in a trans way tho. It is just that I feel really uncomfortable/embarrassed with my naked body, even when I simply look in the mirror before taking a shower. I guess I have never really connected with myself in that way.

It may come from a place of insecurity, as in high school I was really self-conscious, especially about my chest size, which I tried to hide beneath big t-shirts or baggy clothing. I wasn’t really feminine either. I also have never taken any nudes or considered myself attractive in a sexual way. When I tried to do so, I just felt embarrassed or cringed at myself, lol. Because of that, I feel really out of place. I would really want to feel comfortable in my own skin. Do you have any tips or advice? Have you experienced something similar?

Hi! I (21F) recently decided to visit a gynecologist for the first time (pretty late, i know...). Before the visit, while I tried exploring my anatomy down there, I had noticed that my vaginal opening was only a little hole, and inserting a finger seemed impossible, as I was met with immediate discomfort and burning. During the visit the gyn had confirmed my suspicion that I had a slight abnormality with my hymen - more precisely a microperforate hymen. She faced issues with inserting both the smallest speculum and her finger, succeeding only with a Q-tip. However, it hasn't caused me any issues with my periods, as the blood can get past it without issues. It's important to note that I also hadn't had my first time yet. The gyn suggested that the issue may resolve after having sex, but it's not guaranteed, and I may still experience discomfort. She also suggested getting the hymenotomy done to widen the opening to a regular size.

I'm considering having the procedure done, as I suspect that the tissue is quite thick and getting a part of it surgically removed seems like a better idea than it happening during my first time having sex. Here are my questions then - have any of you gone through it recently? Do you recommend it? Should I wait for my first time instead? How long did your recovery take? Were there any complications?

I'd love to hear your stories to get some footing in the situation. Thank you in advance! :)

Hi! I (21F) recently decided to visit a gynecologist for the first time (pretty late, i know...). Before the visit, while I tried exploring my anatomy down there, I had noticed that my vaginal opening was only a little hole, and inserting a finger seemed impossible, as I was met with immediate discomfort and burning. During the visit the gyn had confirmed my suspicion that I had a slight abnormality with my hymen - more precisely a microperforate hymen. She faced issues with inserting both the smallest speculum and her finger, succeeding only with a Q-tip. However, it hasn't caused me any issues with my periods, as the blood can get past it without issues. It's important to note that I also hadn't had my first time yet. The gyn suggested that the issue may resolve after having sex, but it's not guaranteed, and I may still experience discomfort. She also suggested getting the hymenotomy done to widen the opening to a regular size.

I'm considering having the procedure done, as I suspect that the tissue is quite thick and getting a part of it surgically removed seems like a better idea than it happening during my first time having sex. Here are my questions then - have any of you gone through it recently? Do you recommend it? Should I wait for my first time instead? How long did your recovery take? Were there any complications?

I'd love to hear your stories to get some footing in the situation. Thank you in advance! :)