u/Electronic_Concept52

Hi all, Me and my partner had applied to Chandigarh GVCW centre for a short term Schengen Visa (Greece) on the 23rd of April.

We had a 13 day itinerary planned across Athens, Meteora, Corfu and had booked non-refundable tickets and hotel accommodation(booking.com and Airbnb) which we had also mentioned in our cover letter.

We both had upwards of 5L in our salary accounts and had shared NOC’s, payslips from our employers and also included attested bank statements and ITR returns.

Our trip was supposed to be from 22nd May but we both got rejections stating - the information submitted regarding the justification for the purpose and conditions of the intended stay was not reliable.

We’re at a loss of what did we do wrong and if we should move our bookings to a later date and reapply? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

I’m a Delhite(29F) marrying a TamBram(30M) it’s a love marriage btw, we’re having two weddings North Indian and a TamBram one I guess. ( for more context we come from similar educational backgrounds, earn almost the same amount, I’m from a relatively liberal business family whereas his family while liberal is a little more traditional)

His parents are insisting on me wearing a 9 yards Iyer madisari and to be honest it’s not the most flattering thing to be worn - they’re saying if I don’t wear it we can’t have the Tamil wedding. In addition they also want me to keep the thali(equivalent to a mangalsutra) tied for a day which will look quite bad with the cocktail falling on the same night.

I feel they’re being too traditional and unaccommodating. For the north Indian wedding we’re modifying it to whatever we want out of a wedding but I don’t feel very good about the situation - either wear this or we cancel the South Indian wedding so I brought it up with my partner - he got it aligned with his parents so that I can wear whatever I want but gave me so much shit insisting I cant even put up with this for an hour and I’m selfish and what not?

I’m quite weirded out by this since there is no expectation from him about attire adherence for the wedding and all anyone tells him is be a good companion in life in general , but I’m expected to uphold traditions I don’t even understand? Is this normal or am I overthinking this sort of backlash to a simple - ‘I don’t want to wear this’ - may indicate future unreasonable expectations to follow tradition and conflicts regarding the same? I’ve consulted friends and they’ve told me adjustment is necessary but I can’t get the future expectations out of my head.