u/Electrical_Night_486

Ek larke se Meri cousin se online baat hui thi, they became good friends. Some time later usne bola chhoti si party hai. Meri cousin Chali gayi kyunke usse parties bohot pasand hain… lekin wahan pohanchi to jagah bilkul khaali thi. Na music, na log. Thora ajeeb laga. Phir kuch larkiyan aayi, wo unmain se Kuch ko jaanti thi. Tab usse laga shayad waqai koi get together ho. Thori dair baad larkay bhi aa gaye, aur scene normal lagne laga. Baatein, hansi, bas casual sa mahaul. Phir dr**ks aayi… phir w***d jese yeh Kuch matter hi na karta ho. Sab aise behave kar rahe thay jaise yeh koi bari baat hi nahi. Kuch larkiyon ne mana kiya lekin jab sab kar rahe ho na… to khud ko rokna mushkil ho jata hai. Ek larki bilkul nahi karna chahti thi, uske face se clear tha. Lekin phir woh bhi maan gayi… bas is liye ke baqi sab kar rahe thay. Pata hi nahi chala time kaise guzar gaya. 5 ghantay aise hi nikal gaye. Phir achanak police aa gayi. Kisi ne photos aur videos leak kar diye thay Jo baad main pata chala. Aur us waqt bas yeh feel hua… yeh sab itna random nahi tha jitna lag raha tha. Kuch na kuch pehle se plan Kiya tha.

Please kisi bhi online friend ki baaton main aker parties ya kahin bhi mat jaya karen...it's not safe

I’m 21F, recently moved to the U.S. with my family. I’ve completed my bachelor’s degree and I’m either planning to pursue a master’s or get more involved in our family business here.

I’m specifically looking for a Pakistani husband, ideally 20–25, well-mannered, respectful, and someone I genuinely feel comfortable with. I’m also looking for a halal relationship, not something casual.

Before people assume things:

• No, this is not just about papers or a visa
• Yes, we are financially stable and can help someone settle
• No, I’m not looking to be taken advantage of

I know how this sounds to Reddit:
“Too specific”
“Sounds transactional”
“Red flags everywhere”

But I’d rather be clear than waste time.

So be honest is this a bad idea, or just practical?

And if you actually fit what I’m describing (and you’re serious, not just curious), you can DM me.

Let’s see what Reddit thinks.

Why is it so hard for men to satisfy a simple middle class girl these days not asking for luxury or drama just consistency respect emotional safety and basic effort but somehow that feels impossible for you guys You scroll watch 365 Days and Fifty Shades then walk into real life acting intense and mysterious like you are the main character but cannot even hold a proper conversation without checking your phone every two minutes or giving dry replies like it is a personality trait You want a soft loyal understanding girl who supports you through everything but treat her like she is optional background noise then the moment she asks for time attention or clarity suddenly she is high maintenance dramatic or doing too much No she is just reacting to your bare minimum energy And the funniest part you blame movies and books for giving girls unrealistic expectations while you are the one living in a fantasy thinking your presence alone is enough effort sir you are not him you are just inconsistent with good lighting Middle class girls are not asking for fictional billionaires or toxic romance plots they are asking for consistency respect effort and a man who actually acts like he wants them So be honest are men actually struggling to satisfy women or just refusing to grow up because one of those answers explains a lot

Why is it so hard for men to satisfy a simple middle class girl these days not asking for luxury or drama just consistency respect emotional safety and basic effort but somehow that feels impossible for you guys You scroll watch 365 Days and Fifty Shades then walk into real life acting intense and mysterious like you are the main character but cannot even hold a proper conversation without checking your phone every two minutes or giving dry replies like it is a personality trait You want a soft loyal understanding girl who supports you through everything but treat her like she is optional background noise then the moment she asks for time attention or clarity suddenly she is high maintenance dramatic or doing too much No she is just reacting to your bare minimum energy And the funniest part you blame movies and books for giving girls unrealistic expectations while you are the one living in a fantasy thinking your presence alone is enough effort sir you are not him you are just inconsistent with good lighting Middle class girls are not asking for fictional billionaires or toxic romance plots they are asking for consistency respect effort and a man who actually acts like he wants them So be honest are men actually struggling to satisfy women or just refusing to grow up because one of those answers explains a lot