u/Either-Selection-783

i’ve always heard people say that there will be a moment in your relationship where you’ll get bored, but you should try to stay focused and push past that “phase/stage”. it’s been over a year since i’ve felt bored so idk if it’s still a temporary feeling. when it comes to things like hugs or kisses, he’ll give me a friendly hug and rest his hands on my back. for kisses, it’s just a peck every few days. i can’t tell you the last time we made out or did anything more than just a peck. for the past few years, i’ve had to pull him into hugs but they’re very stiff hugs. like i can feel his body weight planted into the ground when i try to pull him into a hug. due to these actions, i can’t tell if i’m bored or losing feelings. would it be necessary to call for a break? is this common? i did try talking to him but he just said that he’s focused on being a provider for the future… ig idk what to do with that. i asked him if that means that our relationship will remain shallow and he said no. i just don’t know what to do or how to go about things.

this might be long but my mom has MS and was diagnosed in 2024. i’m currently about to undergo nursing school next fall. i switched majors so i had to add some classes to my prerequisites. my parents stopped doing their taxes a few years ago and i’ve tried to help them get their forms but a lot of things in the process need them there. then on top of that, they dropped me from their health insurance (i’m 21). this ultimately led me to having to work 40 hours just to stay afloat and i work for a small business so i don’t get those extra benefits. i’ve tried EVERYTHING in the book to get at least some financial grace with my tuition, but they just told me to guess how much my parents make; however, there could be consequences if i guess wrong… so i’m not doing that. my dad wants me to help with my mom at home and, when i did, i failed a class bc it took too much time out of my day so i could never study. i also was told by my instructor to drop my class bc one time she called me 3 times in the middle of a test and it caused the browser to close down… and i failed the test. i had do not disturb on and she broke through it. i ended up taking a gap year bc i couldn’t handle the financial pressure alongside of school and home stuff.

fast forward to now, my boyfriend offered to help pay some stuff bc he wants me to focus on school since my gpa dropped. i also had money saved up but that only covered one semester and a few months of bills. my dad sees that i’m at home more and wants me to help out more, otherwise i have to move out. either way, i think he wants me and my brother to move out tho. i tried to see if he could get a PCA but they don’t want someone they don’t know in the house. i just don’t know what to do bc i’ve already been on academic suspension bc of everything and adding me having to move out just cancels out the extra help that i’m receiving. when i told my boyfriend about me having to move out, he said he’ll help but we’ll be very tight on money. i just feel bad bc he just now got a little pay bump after being an intern and there will be another one soon; however, it’s just hard bc it’s a lot to handle rn for the both of us.