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A reflection that disturbs sleep, before Tanzania steps into a borderless debate

Let me start with one thing, said loudly and with careful caution: The world is laughing while it burns. And we, Africans, Tanzanians, people of a class that still believes we have morals and values, have laid ourselves down in the shade, fanning ourselves with the wind of tradition and custom, waiting for a big event—without realizing that the event is not waiting. It is approaching. It is breaking down doors. And it is already in the room.

I say this as I look at the debate shaking Western countries—New York, Berlin, Amsterdam, and beyond. Debates about "rights" for gay people. Debates about "identity." Debates about the freedom to live "as you have grown accustomed to believing you live."

These are big debates. Academic. Philosophical. International.

But as is the custom with everything from Europe and America: it starts as a debate, and ends as a command. It starts as a proposal, and ends as international policy. It starts as "let us understand them," and ends as "if you criticize, it is a hate crime."

And because we have convinced ourselves that development means saying "yes" to everything from outside, we end up as believers in every ideology—even those that reject the very people who created them.

Tanzania Has Never Had a National Debate – That Is the Problem

Tanzania has never had a national debate about gay people. Just say the word, and heads turn. The Bible will be opened. The Imam will stand. Children's ears will be covered.

But now, slowly, things are changing. Globalization—which we have never truly understood—has reached us with the speed of fire on a grass roof during dry season.

Today, a Tanzanian young person uses Instagram, TikTok, Netflix. They receive memes, consume content, and are fed political, sexual, and social influence whose foundation is this: every identity is valid. Nothing to debate. If you debate, you are stigmatizing.

Now I ask: is that really true?

Do we want to create laws while looking at the tears of West Hollywood, instead of looking at the social reality of Kigoma? Do we want to legalize a way of life that scientific studies have clearly shown is full of mental health problems—and call that "freedom"?

Are we ready to throw our children into a pit of ideological experiments that have already failed where they were created, but we worship them because they came from "those who preceded us"?

The Unspoken Truth: A Mental Health Crisis

Let's go to the evidence, not feelings.

Recent research from Western countries has shown that gay men have higher rates of mental health problems than almost any other social group. The list is long:

· Chronic anxiety

· Severe depression

· Bipolar disorder

· PTSD

· Schizophrenia

· OCD

· Substance abuse (alcohol, marijuana, cocaine)

· Eating disorders

· Personality disorders

Every psychiatrist knows this. Every psychologist confirms it. But society has been silenced by one word more terrifying than a bullet: "stigma."

When they say, "let us first discuss these problems," they are called bigots.

When they say, "perhaps this system is not stable," they are called enemies of rights.

When they say, "let us look after our own children before imitating these things," they are called old-fashioned.

But I say: before you look at whether a person needs rights, first ask yourself—how does this person live? What roots do they have? What is their mental, spiritual, and emotional health? Do we want to give rights to people who are internally suffering, or do we want to normalize that suffering as "identity"?

Rights Without Responsibility Is a Curse

In this article, I have touched on one thing that many of you deliberately avoid—rights without responsibility. In my view, rights granted to any group without the presence of moral roots, without a system of internal accountability, are no different from a curse.

You can call me homophobic. But for anyone who reads between the lines, it will be clear that my argument comes from good intention, not hatred. The intention to see whether this group can genuinely build itself and be integrated into society in a constructive way, not a destructive one.

So now I ask sincerely:

If gay people are given rights today, what do they have to offer our society beyond opulence (achievement without purpose) and hedonism (a life devoted to the pursuit of physical pleasure)?

If you look at the pattern of contributions within this community, the society you want to respect you does not see your contribution beyond your sexual orientation. In short: you are defined by your sexuality and nothing else.

The Reality of Life Without Roots

There is a fundamental problem that we refuse to discuss:

Ordinary people, ordinary men, go through a life system that compels them to grow: to love, to marry, to raise children, to build a family, to carry responsibilities. It is a difficult system. Not modern. Not always pleasant. But it has direction. A person is raised within responsibility.

For many gay people in societies that have abandoned all traditional structures, this system does not exist. They live in "complete freedom." No one compels them to be part of a family, to build, to invest in meaningful relationships.

The results?

· Hookup culture – sex for an hour with people whose names you don't even know

· Drugs as a bridge to connection – alcohol, marijuana, cocaine

· Sexually transmitted diseases filling hospital wards – I have a relative at a major hospital in this city, and I have been told that what is encountered there is alarming. This society needs to examine itself and correct itself before things get worse (and they will get worse). For a minority group, the problems appear enormous compared to taking a similar sample size of heterosexual men.

And finally: philosophical loneliness – existing without purpose, without direction, without a future generation.

I once read the testimony of a gay man—educated, intelligent, thoughtful. He said:

"I got tired of being surrounded by fellow gay people who cried that life was hard but refused to do anything beyond complaining. I decided to leave them, took on social responsibility—built a family, took on duties. My life changed completely."

This is not a religious teaching. It is a teaching from life itself: Rights do not come without responsibility. And freedom without roots is a slow death.

A Warning: When You Push African Societies Without Internal Moral Foundations

WARNING:

If you pressure African societies—using the soft power of Western countries—to accept you without an internal moral foundation, you will be building a house on mud.

Let me assure you: when things fall apart (economically or politically), the very leaders who are now kneeling with you for foreign aid will be the first to throw you down.

They will step onto pulpits, platforms, radios, and televisions attacking you—and you will become sacrificial goats, as has happened before:

· Ancient Greece

· The Weimar Republic before the birth of Nazi Germany

· Several states in America and Eastern Europe

Pride comes before the fall.

All of history shows that gay people are hit hardest by violent backlash when societies fall into crisis. Why? Because they had no meaningful roots within those societies. When the storm comes, the tree with shallow roots falls first.

As you complain today that "society is rejecting us," just wait until conditions worsen. You will not simply return to the closet. You will be returned to prisons and graves.

The Greatest Danger Is the Next Generation

The greatest danger is not gay people themselves. It is the direction in which we are taking society.

As we continue to forcefully remove "stigma," we forget that we are teaching a new generation that this life, this system, these conditions—are normal, are correct, are freedom.

And our children, in secondary school, in university, will be taught that "identity is everything." They will be told that there is no correct way to live. They will think that the loneliness of foreign lands is intellectual wealth. They will live in a world where everyone has a flag, but no one knows where they are going.

Is that the inheritance we want for Tanzania?

Conclusion: Before We Enter the Arena, Let's Ask Hard Questions

Let me finish with this:

If you fail to build yourselves through morality, solidarity, and responsibility within society, then you are like grass that has been drenched in petrol. At any moment, a small stick of fire will pass by—and the result will not be the burning of leaves, but the complete erasure of your existence, under the pretext of "saving society."

Think. Reflect.

When I say these things, I do not seek to be liked. I do not seek "acceptance" on social media or in academic halls. I write out of fear for the next generation.

Because this Western freedom, as it pours into our land, will not fall like gentle rain—it will fall like a flood of disaster. And if we are not careful, we will teach our children that a life of sadness, isolation, loneliness, and lack of responsibility is normal. We will give them the freedom to choose mental pits, while calling them "free thinkers."

Before we begin celebrating "gay rights," let us ask these questions:

1. Are we talking about actual rights, or are we talking about a state of being pitied?

2. Do we want to protect gay people, or do we want to copy a system that secretly torments them even more?

3. Are we fighting for the acceptance of people, or are we normalizing their pain as a compass for our children?

4. Why are we not ready to conduct our own research, on our own Tanzanians, before accepting another person's system?

I have written. Now it is for you to reflect. But do not delay, because while you are reflecting, the next generation is already looking at their phones, waiting for a foreigner to tell them who they are.

Will we be only receivers, or will we grow the ability to think for ourselves?

Reflect carefully. The lives of our children are at stake. And our own—as a nation with dignity—as well.

TL;DR:

"Rights without responsibility is a curse."

The gist:

· Western LGBTQ rights discourse arrives in Africa as commands, not debates.

· Studies show high rates of depression, addiction, and loneliness in gay communities where "full freedom" exists.

· Hookup culture, STDs, and lack of family structures are common issues (author cites hospital source).

· Warning: History shows that when societies collapse, gay people become scapegoats first (Weimar Germany, etc.).

· The author asks: What do gay people offer society beyond their sexuality?

· Final fear: Tanzania is normalizing rootless, responsibility-free living for the next generation.

I know how this sounds. Believe me. But after living on this continent and watching how Americans talk about us, both Black Americans and Africans, I can't unsee it.

Conservatives are easy to spot. They say what they mean. They don't want us around. Fine. I can work with honesty. But progressives? They hug you while picking your pocket. And the worst part? They actually believe they're helping.

I went back and read Malcolm X. Not the quotes you see on Instagram. The actual speeches. Then I read Thomas Sowell, not because I agree with everything he says, but because he asked a question nobody on the left wants to touch: What if we're part of the problem too?

Then I just started watching Reddit. And Twitter. And the way people talk about us when they think nobody's looking.

Here's what I found.

1. They treat us like rescue dogs

When a Black neighborhood has high crime or poverty, progressives will write ten paragraphs about redlining and systemic racism. And look, those things are real. I'm not stupid. But after the tenth paragraph, have you noticed what's missing? Us. Our choices. Our ability to say no.

They talk about Black people the way you talk about a flooded basement. Something to be fixed. Never something that fixes itself.

I swear to God, read their comments closely. They'll say "Black people are dying" but they won't say "Black people are killing each other at rates that would make any other community riot." Not because they don't know. Because they're afraid. They're afraid that saying the truth means agreeing with racists. So they say nothing. And then they call that allyship.

That's not respect. That's what you do for a dog that keeps running into traffic. You build a fence. You don't say "hey, maybe the dog should learn to look both ways."

That stung to write. But it's true.

2. Africa is just a prop to them

Every time there's news about homophobia in Africa, progressives rush to explain it. Always the same script:

· "It's the evangelicals."

· "It's colonialism."

· "It's the Americans."

And again, yes. Those things are real. But do you hear what you're implying? You're saying we Africans cannot be intolerant on our own. We have no original thoughts. No native cruelty. No native kindness either, apparently. Everything is imported.

That's racist. That's actually, literally racist. You've reduced 54 countries and a billion people to puppets with no strings of our own.

If we can't be truly wrong about something, we can never be truly right.

Progressives don't want us to be equal. They want us to be pure. And when we fail to be pure, when an African country passes a stupid law without any white man telling them to, progressives get confused. Because their whole story falls apart.

3. The immigration thing they won't think about

I live here. In Africa. Every single smart person I know wants to leave. Doctors. Engineers. Your best students. Gone.

Progressives cheer this. Open borders. Come to Europe. Come to Canada. They post flags and hearts.

But who does that help? Not us. It helps Germany. It helps France. They get our brightest for free. And then they send us "aid" programs run by 22 year olds who have never seen a mosquito net before and think they're saving babies.

Meanwhile, the people who stay are the ones who couldn't leave. And we wonder why nothing gets built.

I'll say something that will make progressives angry. The right wing anti-immigration people are accidentally helping us. Because when Europe closes its doors, our engineers stay home. Our doctors stay home. And maybe, just maybe, they'll look around and decide to build something here.

I know the right wingers don't mean to help us. They hate us. But at least their hate is honest. Progressives love us to death. And their love is killing us.

4. So how do we pull ourselves up? Since nobody else will

I'm tired of waiting. Here's what we actually need to do. Not theory. Real things.

For Black Americans:

· Stop waiting for white people to fix your neighborhoods. The Irish didn't wait. The Italians didn't wait. The Koreans built their own banks. Start a savings circle with ten people. One hundred dollars each. That's a thousand. Lend it to each other. Build credit. Own something.

· Talk about the violence. Not for white approval. For yourselves. If your son can't walk to the corner store without getting shot, don't blame redlining from 1968. Blame whatever idiot pulled the trigger. Then figure out why he did it. Then fix that. But don't skip the blame part like it doesn't exist. That's denial, not justice.

· Malcolm X said we need our own leaders, our own schools, our own everything. He didn't say "wait for the Democrats to save us." He said save yourselves. That man was murdered and he still had more hope than half the people on Twitter.

For us Africans:

· Stop taking aid like it's charity. It's a leash. Every dollar comes with a white person telling you what to do. Say no. Even if it hurts. Pain builds character. Comfort builds dependency.

· Build roads to your neighbor, not to London. Trade with each other. We sell raw materials to China and buy back finished goods. That's stupidity. Pure stupidity. Stop it.

· Hold your own leaders accountable. When your president steals, don't say "colonialism made him." No. Colonialism ended 60 years ago in most places. At some point, the problem is us. Jail your own thieves. I know it's hard. Do it anyway.

· Create a reason for your smart people to come home. Tax breaks. Land. Respect. Right now, a Nigerian doctor in London is treated like a human being. In Nigeria, he's treated like an ATM by his own family and police. Fix that. And he'll come back.

5. The part that will really sting progressives

Here's what nobody says.

Progressives need us to be broken. Because if we fixed ourselves, what would they do with all that guilt? All those donations? All that virtue?

Think about it. A progressive who truly believed in Black agency would shut up and listen. But they don't. They keep talking. They keep explaining us to ourselves. Because our suffering gives their life meaning. They need the tragedy. Without it, they're just another person with a Twitter account.

That's the most racist thing I've ever written. And it's the truest.

Malcolm X saw this. He said white liberals are worse than white conservatives because at least conservatives are honest about their hatred. Liberals smile while they strip you of your dignity. They call it love. It's not love. It's a leash.

TL;DR

Progressives treat us like pets, not people. They deny our agency, infantilize Africa, and cheer brain drain while calling it compassion. Conservatives are rude but honest. We need neither. We need to save ourselves through economic self-reliance, facing our own violence, rejecting aid as a lifestyle, and demanding accountability from our own leaders.

And progressives won't like this because our suffering is their hobby.

Sorry. Truth stings.