u/Dry-Reference691

I am really struggling. My ex and I were together for 2 months. He is 42 and I am 35. We had the most beautiful relationship. He was calm, understanding, loving. He called all of the time and ask to see me daily, even if we just went for a walk.

On Monday we went shopping for a toy. We had regular conversation. He hugged me multiple times, kissed me. After we separate he called two times and on the last conversation he told me that we will speak in the morning. Next morning he didn’t call which was unusual but I wasn’t worrier. About 1 pm I tried calling him and he didn’t pick up. As he had some back pain for over a week I got worried honestly that something happened. I sent him a text to let me know is he okay. He responded around 5pm with “I am well, sorry I didn’t call I was thinking and this is not it for me. Hope that you can respect this and don’t reach out anymore”. I tried calling him and then he blocked me on everything. I am still in shock. We were great together, it was the most beautiful and compatible relationship I ever had.

I was once with avoidant but I would always sense when he was about to discard me. With this one I didn’t see it coming at all.

Is he seems avoidant or not? Or just not interested? I would never forgive him for betraying me like this but I would like for him to reach out just so that I can make sense on what made him do this. Like everything was great we were chating and laughing a day before. He wanted to spend time with me and then just one message and I am blocked? Like someone flip the switch. I feel awful, like I am gonna die. Can’t sleep or eat at all….

reddit.com
u/Dry-Reference691 — 14 days ago

Sorry if I don’t make much sense, english is not my first language and I am still upset and in shock.

Boyfriend (42 male) and I (35 female) were together for 2 months (i know, not long enough to feel like I feel but let me explain).

We meet over the instagram and he asked to take me out. I was fresh out of 2 year relationship and went for fun. But I liked him instantly and we kissed on first date.

On second date we were together for 5 hours straight and after that we were together pretty much every day. Going for walk, watching movies etc. Doing regular staff. He was super calm and understanding, very affectionate. Made me feel safe and secure in our relationship. We spoke all of the time, couple of times a day.

Yesterday he asked me to go and help him pick up the toy for his sister’s kid. And we went for a drink, he had back pain and we went home. He called me on a way home just to talk about regular staff. Kissed me multiple times before we went our own way.

Today he didn’t call me and I got worried, thinking that something happened, called him multiple times and send him a message to let me know is he okay as he had that back pain for couple of days and I was worried that it got worse and that he is in the hospital maybe.

About 5pm he sent me a message saying that he is okay and sorry for not calling he was thinking and he don’t wanna be with me anymore. And then he blocked me everywhere.

How can I deal with this? I had three long relatshioships and I could always tell when it is coming to an end.

This just ended without any explanation at all. How can I navigate this, and how will I trust again?

reddit.com
u/Dry-Reference691 — 15 days ago
▲ 2 r/BreakUps+1 crossposts

Sorry if I don’t make much sense, english is not my first language and I am still upset and in shock.

Boyfriend (42 male) and I (35 female) were together for 2 months (i know, not long enough to feel like I feel but let me explain).

We meet over the instagram and he asked to take me out. I was fresh out of 2 year relationship and went for fun. But I liked him instantly and we kissed on first date.

On second date we were together for 5 hours straight and after that we were together pretty much every day. Going for walk, watching movies etc. Doing regular staff. He was super calm and understanding, very affectionate. Made me feel safe and secure in our relationship. We spoke all of the time, couple of times a day.

Yesterday he asked me to go and help him pick up the toy for his sister’s kid. And we went for a drink, he had back pain and we went home. He called me on a way home just to talk about regular staff. Kissed me multiple times before we went our own way.

Today he didn’t call me and I got worried, thinking that something happened, called him multiple times and send him a message to let me know is he okay as he had that back pain for couple of days and I was worried that it got worse and that he is in the hospital maybe.

About 5pm he sent me a message saying that he is okay and sorry for not calling he was thinking and he don’t wanna be with me anymore. And then he blocked me everywhere.

How can I deal with this? I had three long relatshioships and I could always tell when it is coming to an end.

This just ended without any explanation at all. How can I navigate this, and how will I trust again?

reddit.com
u/Dry-Reference691 — 15 days ago