u/DomerDomar

My first ever Reddit post so sorry if I somehow do this wrong. I (22M) am in love with my friend Amy (fake name) who is a 21 year old female. I’ve known Amy for about 2 years and frankly since the moment I met her I’ve liked her. We got very close very quickly and I’m even incredibly loved and friendly with the rest of her family and friends. Amy and I quickly became best friends and began to talk everyday. To set up the dynamic that Amy and I have, it is very flirty. Sending each other relationship type posts on Instagram and tik tok, flirting with each other and calling each other the love of each others lives etc. it’s been like this for as long as we have been friends to be honest. About a year and a half ago I told her I had feelings for her but she didn’t feel the same way, which to me was fine because I would rather be her friend than nothing at all. After I told her, the jokes stopped for a little bit but then they resumed after a while again. In this time she thought that I had lost feelings for her but I didn’t and just didn’t want to say anything to her in fear that I would make things weird between us (stupid, I know). Recently we had a surprise party for one of our mutual friends and at this party she met my friend who we will call Josh. Josh and Amy were very clearly attracted to each other and to be honest it quite bothered me for obvious reasons. Josh ended up spending the night and I’m 100% positive that all they did was cuddle but I still feel jealous about the whole situation. So now Josh and Amy are getting to know each other and getting closer and frankly it’s tearing me up inside. Amy also for some reason has been acting like a completely different person. She treats him nicer than she treats me and she’s known him for not even 2 months and I’ve been her “best friend” for 2 years. One day I decided to confess to her. I told her everything from my feelings towards her to how she’s been treating me. Amy said “I’m so sorry if it really is an issue I’ll stop talking to Josh I swear” and I reassured her that I didn’t want to impose on whatever they have going on because at the end of the day I do just want her to be happy, even if it’s with me or not. I also don’t want her to build resentment towards me because I told her not to talk to a guy she likes. The worst part is that the Josh constantly lies about things to her and others and she knows and still likes him. I guess I’m just having trouble understanding what to say. I asked for space when I confronted her about everything and she cried and even I did too. We took space from each other but only for about 2-3 days before we hung out in the same place because we share the same friend group so seeing each other is just inevitable if we want to hang out with our friends. We ended up breaking no contact but I still find myself being hurt by this whole situation.

My first ever Reddit post so sorry if I somehow do this wrong. I (22M) am in love with my friend Amy (fake name) who is a 21 year old female. I’ve known Amy for about 2 years and frankly since the moment I met her I’ve liked her. We got very close very quickly and I’m even incredibly loved and friendly with the rest of her family and friends. Amy and I quickly became best friends and began to talk everyday. To set up the dynamic that Amy and I have, it is very flirty. Sending each other relationship type posts on Instagram and tik tok, flirting with each other and calling each other the love of each others lives etc. it’s been like this for as long as we have been friends to be honest. About a year and a half ago I told her I had feelings for her but she didn’t feel the same way, which to me was fine because I would rather be her friend than nothing at all. After I told her, the jokes stopped for a little bit but then they resumed after a while again. In this time she thought that I had lost feelings for her but I didn’t and just didn’t want to say anything to her in fear that I would make things weird between us (stupid, I know). Recently we had a surprise party for one of our mutual friends and at this party she met my friend who we will call Josh. Josh and Amy were very clearly attracted to each other and to be honest it quite bothered me for obvious reasons. Josh ended up spending the night and I’m 100% positive that all they did was cuddle but I still feel jealous about the whole situation. So now Josh and Amy are getting to know each other and getting closer and frankly it’s tearing me up inside. Amy also for some reason has been acting like a completely different person. She treats him nicer than she treats me and she’s known him for not even 2 months and I’ve been her “best friend” for 2 years. One day I decided to confess to her. I told her everything from my feelings towards her to how she’s been treating me. Amy said “I’m so sorry if it really is an issue I’ll stop talking to Josh I swear” and I reassured her that I didn’t want to impose on whatever they have going on because at the end of the day I do just want her to be happy, even if it’s with me or not. I also don’t want her to build resentment towards me because I told her not to talk to a guy she likes. The worst part is that the Josh constantly lies about things to her and others and she knows and still likes him. I guess I’m just having trouble understanding what to say. I asked for space when I confronted her about everything and she cried and even I did too. We took space from each other but only for about 2-3 days before we hung out in the same place because we share the same friend group so seeing each other is just inevitable if we want to hang out with our friends. We ended up breaking no contact but I still find myself being hurt by this whole situation. What should I do??