u/Doesntmatter1237

So I HAD a 2013 Chevy Sonic. Just bought it not 6 months ago, unfortunately got in a rough accident and it's totaled now. So I've been without a car for a few weeks. Finally wrapping up the insurance claim and hopefully getting something new (to me) soon.

For various reasons I want to go to the same local dealer I went to ~6 months ago, they're honest and really helped me out before. They have a 2014 Chevy Cruze that's right in my price range, around $6k, with about 120k miles. I have however seen some warnings about the 2014 Cruzes specifically and given this whole fiasco I don't want major problems 6-18 months if I can help it.

They also have a 2014 Malibu, about 100k miles but about $1000 more. I might be able to swing it price wise if it's worth it, however I also don't need the extra room the Malibu provides. Majority of the time it's just me driving to work and back, to the grocery store etc. No kids and no passengers usually.

The Cruze overall is more attractive to me based on price, fuel economy and size, but I've seen some warnings posted about these cars in the 2014 range.

So, how bad is it really? Am I likely to see catastrophic problems anytime soon with the 2014 Cruze? Pretty sad about the Sonic tbh so I'm looking for something similar and under $10k.

Thank you for any and all input

Edit: The Cruze is a 1.4L Turbo and the Malibu is a 2.5L engine

I just got a fucking car in November and was really really happy about it. I was biking or walking before that. Well I got in an accident 2 weeks ago and fucking totaled the car. Insurance took care of the car, but now I'm back to square one of not having one AGAIN.

I'm fucking miserable, not having a car in a rural part of the US is almost impossible and horrible. There are no busses or trains to take me anywhere, everything is miles apart, and none of the fucking roads are walkable or bikable at all. It's all 2 lane highways where everyone is driving 100mph and ready to hit you if you're not also in a car.

I'm miserable and it's making me not even want to exist anymore, I can't get anywhere and even making it to my job is difficult

There are hardly even Ubers around here and certainly none at 4am when I need to go to work. Lately I want to [REDACTED] myself again because of this

The fucking seagulls from finding Nemo are real and they're Starbucks customers

It's a Saturday AND a holiday weekend YOU WILL WAIT. I DON'T CARE IF YOU HAVE TO GO SOMEWHERE. Plan better and get here early idgaf. If I have 30+ drinks in queue and you lean over the glass "is that mine is that mine is that mine" you're gonna make me crash out or have a fucking panic attack. Not to mention camping my bar and staring at me like a zoo animal makes me go SLOWER not faster. Wait your goddamn fucking turn Jesus Christ dude YES It's fucking busy YES you will wait DEAL WITH IT.

Everyone thinks they are the only human being to exist on earth and they need theirs NOWNOWNOW when 53 other people also want theirs NOW. Everyone thinks they are #1 VIP most important. If you have such poor planning skills that you show up here already late to somewhere then let this be a lesson for you because holy shit

I'm gonna crash out, patience and humility are fucking dead everyone thinks they're hot shit and need theirs NOW FIRST BEFORE THESE OTHER PLEBS NOOOOOOW

We've been together almost 4 years and this is a repeated, chronic problem. Now whenever we make plans I assume there's at best a 30-40% chance of us actually going through with it. We make plans to go out for dinner, go to a movie, get drinks, hang out with friends, whatever it is. I get my hopes up, look forward to it all week, then the day of she says she isn't feeling it anymore and doesn't want to go. Once, twice a few times is okay and I'm not an asshole. I understand things come up. But it's more often than not That we cancel. Probably dozens of times or more this has happened.

When she says she wants to cancel naturally I get disappointed because I was looking forward to it, then it turns into a guilt spiral where she says she is such a terrible person and the worst and always let's me down and "let's just go whatever" but I say no. If you don't want to go then you'll be in a bad mood, won't enjoy it and so I won't enjoy it either. It'll be a bad time and a waste of money and effort. So then when she says no, then after seeing my face drop says whatever let's just go, then *I* have to refuse and look like the bad guy. When really, it was her choice not to go.

Now I just have to try not to get my hopes up. Even things planned weeks or more out, I just think "well we probably won't actually go." I have even scheduled other things at the same time before assuming the date will be canceled, and I'll almost always be right. Any time we plan a date now I think okay there's about a 1/3 chance of this actually happening, maybe 1/4 or 1/5 and most likely the day of she will cancel.

This has maddened me to no end and makes me not actually look forward to anything anymore because I just assume it will be canceled. This can involve other people too, not just us. Many times we have tried to make plans with other couples or mutual friends and she still cancels day of. It's almost never before that, it's always last minute. Other people have gotten mad at both of us before because of this, when I was all ready and down to go.

I think it gets close and she gets anxiety of "oh I actually have to do this thing" and psyches herself out of it. I try to understand but again, it's just SO frequent and I've had my excitement crushed countless times. Now I try to just be numb to it and don't expect anything. It feels very juvenile or how it would be when you're first dating someone but we've been in a serious relationship for several years and are pushing 30 now. We live together in fact.

Nothing worse than excitement for a weekend date getting you through a tough work week, then On Saturday afternoon hours before dinner you get told "hey I don't think I can actually do that anymore."

I hate smalltalk, it's the worst thing ever for me and almost like it's physically painful. In some cases I'd take the physical pain instead if I had the choice. I'm a man but I'll put off getting my hair cut for months just because I don't want to be a captive audience forced to make smalltalk while they cut my hair. I might sound rude to some people, but I just don't like talking if there's nothing to say. It's always the same topics, weather and sports. "Sunny out today." "Yep" "Summer soon right" "Mhm" "Did you see that Cubs game last night?" "wow"

It's terrible. Nobody gains anything from that and I don't even think anyone WANTS to have those elevator conversations, they just don't know what to do with silence and have to make some kind of noise. I'm perfectly comfortable and usually prefer it.

Anyway, I'll be pleasant and polite but if the person cutting my hair gets the message that I don't want to talk, and they stay quiet, I tip significantly more. Last time the woman understood the vibe perfectly I think and only talked about what's necessary for the haircut. Great, I tipped her 100% or i.e. I tipped her the same as the actual price of the haircut.

For the ones who don't get the message and try to still force a conversation when I'm clearly not engaging, I still tip of course but it's like 20% Then dread the next time I have to go back.

But to the ones who get it and don't force smalltalk, thank you! I see you and I appreciate you, and I'm happy to give a bigger tip for making my experience less uncomfortable

We literally had 50 drinks in queue, I'm working as fast as is humanly possible on bar, and I have years of experience so it's as fast as ANYONE could ever be. When we have 50 drinks, you're just gonna wait. It is what it is, truly.

Then I get a dozen mouth breathers leaning over the glass and/or dead staring at me like 👁️👄👁️ and asking every 3 seconds is that mine? Is that mine? Is that mine? Is that mine? Mine mine mine mine mine mine mine

You're making me go SLOWER not faster. You're putting extreme pressure on everything we do, making me more likely to mess up, spill, get distracted etc. YOUR DRINK IS COMING I PROMISE. we didn't forget, we're not ignoring you, we just have SO MANY GODDAMN drinks. Show up early, it's not our fault you showed up here already late for work.

Jesus Christ we're not zoo animals, wait patiently like an adult ffs. I half expect them to start throwing peanuts