u/Dizzy_Repair_8031

i exhausted the loml and my fp so much they finally left. I was truly so unregulated, so dependent, and emotionally abusive. I was emotionally abusive. How do you cope?

I’m in therapy, registering for dbt, getting a psychiatrist, but how do you live with yourself now ? please? i can’t believe i lost him and it’s all my fault. And knowing it’s done because who would ever go back to someone that treated them the way i did ?

Coming from an abusive relationship before him i can’t believe i became this. I miss him so much. i don’t know how to live with myself. how to cope with trying to let him go. Please.

As the dumpee and the one who seriously messed up and understands why they left, how do u even find comfort?

every breakup video or advice im just reading from his eyes and imagining the validation he probably feels in his choice. I feel like i caused the damage, so all the “accept who showed up and not the idea of them you had in ur head” just stings. I see him reading that and being like yeah, she wasn’t changing and i made the right choice.

maybe that’s the point. maybe when you don’t get the help you need and let your attachment issues/ mental health ruin such a beautiful love, u don’t get comfort. u don’t get breakup videos or advice. u just suffer i guess. any tips appreciated, feels like there’s no way out of this one.

really just need some help, going through the worst of it now. Been only 3 days and man this is the worst pain I have ever experienced in my entire life. I could write a whole essay about this but i guess im just looking for advice on how to cope and if im gonna spend the rest of my life hating myself for losing the best thing that ever happened to me. There was a lot of reasons and there are areas he faulted too, but most of it is my fault and my mental health issues. As the dumpee who is in shock still i can’t seem to process, i see no light at the end of this tunnel. He was so at peace with his decision, almost relieved. i’ve never felt this kind of hurt in my life. All I can do now is hate myself for not getting help sooner, I understand he had to put himself first. He took care of me in every way, i was too emotionally dependent and he needed to just take care of himself now. but god how do i pick myself back up? how do i not blame myself forever for losing him? i’m obviously going to therapy now and gonna focus on myself, but man do i just not see a life without him in it. My best friend, what i believed was my soulmate. Please, how do you cope? I’ve cried so much i’m now physically sick, and the way im going i fear I’ll never pick myself back up from this.