u/DistrictParticular65

hey guys, I just feel really upset about my appearance including my physique.

idm my pictures too much but I can help but feel like I'm deceiving people, every date and hookup says l look the same as my pictures but idk if I do or they're saying be we're face to face, I say that because surely if you think I'm attractive you'd want a second date.

It's plausible that it's my personality but that's one thing I'm confident in, I'm fun funny and easygoing, conversations are easy.

I recently went on a date with someone so my type 10/10 and they said I'm attractive even went in for a goodbye kiss which is unusual, but idk I know nothing will come of it, I'm just drained of these thoughts, lifting my top every 5 seconds and staring at myself In the mirror

Everytime I talk to someone about it they don't understand, they'll say oh but ur tall. But who cares if I'm tall if my type doesn't like me back or I never get perused.

I just don't know what to do attractiveness, how do I gauge my attractiveness

Hey guys, I’ve been going gym for a while now but consistently for a few months, all I want is a set of visible abs.

I weight 78kg and I’m 192cm (6’3.7)

I try get atleast 140g of protein a day

I workout 4-5x a week

Chest Shoulder Triceps x 2
Back and Bicep x 2
Legs x 1 (just glutes lol to help my posture)
Edit: I also do abs after each workout weighted crunches

I just feel like I’ll never see the day I have visible abs as I am someone prone to skinny fat tho it’s definitely reducing but there’s just no definition.

Calories wise ik it’s lower than it should be probably under 2000

I don’t really want to bulk as I used to be fat but if it’s the only way I can put on more muscle i understand.

Just need help please, or should I accept I might never have abs :/

I went on a date which is out of my comfort zone since I’m kind of awkward and a low self esteem.

It was okay it lasted 3.5 hours ish and was walking talking coffee and food.

The person was sweet, I always wonder wether I look like my photos because I don’t want to deceive people and look worse irl, anyway after the date we still exchanged a few messages but only became more dull, until I was abit over it and asked if there’s still interest or if he wants we can just end whatever we started, anyway he did say I was attractive and I’m not sure if it’s my own insecurity but idk I feel like maybe I wasn’t up to par or maybe he really “is in a busy time” in a span of 3 days because his response prior were quite fast.

I also wasn’t too interested partly because all he seems to do is go for drinks and ride bikes which is meh. But I did find him attractive and fun.

Excuse my grammar and punctuation but I’m just curious what people’s thoughts are, was my looks the reason? Maybe he truly didn’t find me a vibe? Perhaps no common ground?