u/Distinct_Cry_4599

Had a small umbilical hernia fixed along with diastasis recti repair 5 May Tues; laparoscopic, no mesh, no robot.

Advised no lifting till 6 weeks; wear belt day and night 3 weeks and only day remaining 3 weeks.

Wanted to get a sense check of recovery timeline, belt wearing practice, movement and belt wearing practice, chance of recurrence, etc.

So far, I haven't had too much acute pain (day 4 today) but alot of the pulling sensation and discomfort (pretty expected). Pretty uncomfortable to sleep, haven't attempted side sleeping yet.

Have twins, 1yr old, 12kg each, so picking them now is out of the question- but realistically when will I return to normal life, movement, lifting? I am really scared to cough, laugh, move, scared to rip stitches, and worsen recovery.

Finding it really tough, looking for advice, experience, perspective. TYIA

Edit: have help at home so wont have to lift twins but its killing me when they keep crying and reaching out for me :(

Twin boys, 13months, wake up several times during the night, have to give pacifier/ rock back to sleep, sometimes feed milk.

They sleep by 7pm, wake up a few times and are usually up by 5am - how to make them sleep throughout the night for the full 12hours? Its really taking a toll on me and my husband's sleep.

They have 2 naps during the day, an hour or slightly more each. If we try to lessen their naps, they become intolerable.

Also on another note, for those with di-di twins, did you ever check if they are fraternal or identical? The test for this (zygosity something) isnt available where I live. Do we just assume / make peace with not knowing? They do look a bit different but sometimes look the same lol.