u/DistantRain1205

NAT. I’m trying to write an email to send my therapist before our next session that lets them know what’s going on for me & looking for any tips or suggestions that might help! I have trouble communicating in general and especially things like this- I know my therapist will understand why I’m emailing rather than just explaining fully in session, but I’m struggling with how to write it. Basically I need to let them know that the last few sessions have left me feeling hurt and misunderstood; between things said and the overall approach taken. I want to explain it enough that if I can’t say anything at all in the session, they’ll have an good enough idea of what’s happening but definitely don’t want it to seem like a bulleted list of things I think they’ve done wrong.

Therapists, are there any specific things you’d suggest to include / not include or any general tips for writing this kind of email?

Can anyone share personal experiences with this and how you knew.. would also be great if any therapists could weigh in too but I’ve been wondering, as a client who struggles a lot with of attachment/abandonment wounds that have made themselves undeniably clear since day 1 in therapy.. how would I be able to tell if things feel hard, I’m upset, feeling triggered alot because that’s what is going to happen as I do the work- essentially it feeling hard bc it is hard and is a sign of me working thru it to maybe get to a place where I really do one day feel safe and secure here vs. those same feelings of things being hard, getting triggered, being upset feeling hard because somethings wrong and maybe isn’t helping but in fact doing the opposite and making the wounds deeper?

Is there even a way to know or is it more about listening to & believing yourself .. trusting that you will know if it’s a good kind of struggle or not?