u/Direct_0

I’ve known this girl since 7th grade, and now we’re in 11th. Back then, we were really close friends, but we lost contact for a while when we ended up in different classes.

This year, we were placed in the same class again, and after a 4-day school trip, we reconnected. During that trip, we realized how much we enjoyed each other’s company, and our bond quickly became strong again.

After the trip, I started developing feelings for her. I couldn’t see her as just a friend anymore. We began talking every night on FaceTime, making plans, even falling asleep on call together. She gave me a lot of signals—she prioritized me over her other friends and shared very personal things with me.

During that time, she often talked about how badly her ex had treated her and insisted she would never get back with him.

However, after a few weeks, she started running into him again at clubs and other places. From the way she reacted and interacted with him, I began to feel like she might also be developing feelings for him again.

But even though we still talk every day, the way she speaks about her ex has changed. Now it feels like she talks about him almost like a crush. She calls him stupid, but at the same time says she doesn’t want to lose him.

At this point, I feel stupid. It seems like I might have just been used for attention, and it looks like she might get back together with her ex.

Now I don’t know what I’m supposed to do.

If I tell her how I feel, I risk pushing her back toward her ex and possibly losing her completely.

If I distance myself or ghost her, the same outcome could happen.

But if I stay and pretend to be just a friend, it’s going to hurt me a lot—and honestly, I already feel heartbroken.

I’ve(17M) known this girl since 7th grade(17F), and now we’re in 11th. Back then, we were really close friends, but we lost contact for a while when we ended up in different classes.

This year, we were placed in the same class again, and after a 4-day school trip, we reconnected. During that trip, we realized how much we enjoyed each other’s company, and our bond quickly became strong again.

After the trip, I started developing feelings for her. I couldn’t see her as just a friend anymore. We began talking every night on FaceTime, making plans, even falling asleep on call together. She gave me a lot of signals—she prioritized me over her other friends and shared very personal things with me.

During that time, she often talked about how badly her ex had treated her and insisted she would never get back with him.

However, after a few weeks, she started running into him again at clubs and other places. From the way she reacted and interacted with him, I began to feel like she might also be developing feelings for him again.

But even though we still talk every day, the way she speaks about her ex has changed. Now it feels like she talks about him almost like a crush. She calls him stupid, but at the same time says she doesn’t want to lose him.

At this point, I feel stupid. It seems like I might have just been used for attention, and it looks like she might get back together with her ex.

Now I don’t know what I’m supposed to do.

If I tell her how I feel, I risk pushing her back toward her ex and possibly losing her completely.

If I distance myself or ghost her, the same outcome could happen.

But if I stay and pretend to be just a friend, it’s going to hurt me a lot—and honestly, I already feel heartbroken.

PLEASE TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK I SERIOUSLY NEED HELP

**TL;DR;** : I (17M) have a really close strange relationship with a girl(17F) I don’t know if she likes me back since we are just friends or she uses me as attention to get back with her ex