u/Different_Choice1721

I 22m was not happy, content, or satisfied in my last relationship. There were a few things I was not thrilled about. I feel like now, I just want to focus on myself and stay single until someone who I see really fulfils my needs and makes me happy comes along. Why would I want to be in a relationship with anyone who does less than that? I want to be happy with everything about her, and not constantly question if theres better out there or if I even truly love her. What are your thoughts on having high standards? I feel like its better to be single than in a relationship where you arent happy or content.

I tried to force myself to love someone, and obviously, it turned out terribly. I was constantly trying to "figure out" if I loved her, wanted to be with her long term, etc. The thought of getting married one day made me apprehensive (I'm also only 22). I always asked other people what they thought of her and of us for reassurance that I was in the right relationship because I didn't feel like I was.

Has anyone been through something similar? And if you have, how does it compare to finding someone that you truly love without having to doubt or question, or mainly FORCE + RUSH things with?