u/DiamondJumpy1397

I’m currently 5 weeks pp with a rambunctious demanding 21 month old at home. I’m a stay at home mom with my husband out of the house for about 10-12 hours each day working. I have a mother’s helper in the mornings with me for another 3 weeks helping entertain my toddler as I am figuring out breastfeeding. The problem is, my toddler in all over me regardless and my baby won’t sleep. My baby also has torticollis requiring stretching after every feed and repositioning once she finally does sleep. I am just so spread thin. My toddler is frequently throwing a tantrum or screaming. This wakes up my baby. I end up having to go into our room to put her back to sleep again. Ultimately having to breastfeed her again. Meanwhile my toddler is calling for me from behind the door, making it impossible for my baby to sleep. I feel like no one is getting their needs met. My toddler is eating crackers and rejecting meals. He is stuck at home with me during this never ending loop of breastfeeding, stretching, attempting to out baby down and keep her sleep. Trying to use the restroom when I can because I still have to pee the second I take a sip of water. Trying to hydrate so I have enough milk for my baby. I feel like I am losing my mind. I’m on the verge of tears and hate crying in front of my toddler. My husband helps a lot when he’s home but he’s tired too. Army husband and I are constantly butting heads and I feel so unseen and dismissed. I mentioned I’m struggling over and over and at this point he barely acknowledges it or tells me everything is fine. I just don’t know how to get through this. Any tips for sleep? Baby wearing won’t work because my toddler is constantly jumping on me, asking me to chase him, or asking to get picked up.

I am 1 month postpartum. I was looking forward to a lowkey Mother’s Day brunch at an outdoor cafe nearby with my husband and kids. My husband suggested we do this on Saturday. My in laws invited for brunch and my family is gathering in the afternoon. I know I have some PPA and the idea of being at indoor gatherings with my newborn makes me anxious. Specially since there will be many school aged children. My husband thinks we should go to avoid upsetting family and to just be cautious. He’s a doctor and thinks I’m being over cautious. I have a hard time identifying if these feelings are PPA related and if I need to push through. I would love my toddler to get out and socialize. And my husband thinks it’s healthy for me as well. I have bee isolating myself a bit this last month. Which I think is normal but maybe not? I feel this sense of dread. And I don’t know how to cope. My husband thinks I should remind myself it’s my hormones and doesn’t want me to take Zoloft because while it’s considered safe, the effect on bay are still largely unknown. I’d prefer not to take medication but aka don’t know how to work through situations like this and feel largely alone. Therapy hasn’t been helpful in the past and I had my toddler home with me, leaving very limited time to schedule a session. I’d rather catch up on sleep or make dinner. Not sure what the point of this post is. Guessing I’m just looking to see if I’m not alone in these feelings and how other people coped.

I have a 21 months old toddler and a 3.5 week old baby right now. I’m a SAHM and my husband went back to work after 1.5 weeks. I’m feeling really guilty about keeping my toddler home most days. We used to go out for an activity every day. I’ve been trying to figure out breastfeeding and am currently triple feeding. I have so much anxiety about taking them both out for anything other than a neighborhood walk or walk to the grocery store. I’m scared my toddler will get sick at the park and pass it along to his newborn sister.how to you find balance between keeping your toddler entertained and protecting your newborn? My parents invited us over for dinner tonight and my sister (who will be there) is sick. He kids likely had why she had earlier. I just get nervous at the idea of going. It was going to be difficulty initially but now I feel anxious that my newborn baby will get sick. How do you know when to just go and when to stay home? Sorry if this doesn’t make sense. I maybe got 3 hours of sleep last night (does not help with anxiety)

I have a 4 week old baby and a toddler. I don’t know how to navigate getting toddler out of the house while avoiding him catching an illness and bringing it home to baby. I’m a stay at home mom and up until giving birth took him to mommy and me classes and the park. I’m invited to my parents house tonight but just found out my sister has a cold. Do I go? Stay home? Was looking forward to getting my toddler out of the house and feel guilty keeping him home.