u/Desperate_Talk_126

Throwaway account. Accidentally found porn on my husband’s phone the other day, he forgot to hide after downloading, I guess. I knew he watched porn and didn’t care too much for it, as it was very abstract in my mind. But once I realised he saves photos and videos on his phone it broke me. In my anger I asked him to delete everything and… he sat there selecting pictures and I realised it’s THOUSANDS over the time we were together. Just to clarify, we were having consistent sex these years, albeit it became less frequent from his side over time.

He admitted to having a problem and him being addicted to it and trying to get rid of the addiction but relapsing. He promised to stop. He swears it meant nothing and that I am the only one he wants and he is thinking of me all the time and that we never cheated or would cheat etc etc etc I don’t know how true it is, as Im not educated on the subject, but seeing all of that made me almost throw up. I couldn’t watch him delete thousands of materials for longer than half an hour and left to clear my head.

He showed me an empty hidden folder later, but I don’t know… knowing in theory he was watching porn vs seeing it all with my own eyes broke something inside of me. I am not sure I can ever not question whether he is still doing it, just got better at hiding.

I am also not exactly sure why I feel so much rage just because i saw it all saved, but I didnt feel this way when I thought it was online? I don’t know how to proceed from here.

Any advice for those who went through this is welcome.

Throwaway account. Accidentally found porn on my husband’s phone yesterday, he forgot to hide after downloading, I guess. I knew he watched porn and didn’t care for it, but once I realised he saves photos and videos on his phone it broke me. In my anger I asked him to delete everything and… he sat there selecting pictures and I realised it’s THOUSANDS over the time we were together.

He admitted to having a problem and him being addicted to it and trying to get rid of the addiction but relapsing. He promised to stop. I don’t know how true it is, as Im not educated on the subject, but seeing all of that made me almost throw up. I couldn’t watch him delete thousands of materials for longer than half an hour and left to clear my head.

The worst part came after. He didn’t want to show me his phone again to prove he deleted everything, talking about trust etc. I let it go in the moment, because I realised that if they are still there I will be getting divorced and wasn’t ready to commit to that in the moment.

I don’t know where to go from here. He wants to fix it. He promises to stop. But I don’t know what to feel here. It’s one thing if it’s a true addiction. It’s another if he is just trying to dig himself out of this hole. I don’t know what questions to ask or how to proceed.