hi I (26F) live with my parents and unfortunately for me I can't get to find a different place to live because I'm unemployed and I'm studying with my savings.
the situation basically is that my mother is very selfish and she only appreciates the efforts she make and when I say "I can't do X thing" she jumps at me saying she's alone and no one ever does anything for her (when I obviously do everything I can and sometimes even more). it's not very possible to put limits because she doesn't understand them. when she gets frustrated and starts yelling all my buttons are pushed aka I get triggered to my limit and all I want to do is hurt myself because I can't deal with it.
I honestly don't know what to do in these situations because it dysregulates the shit out of me and I can't function properly.