u/Desperate_Cook_7338 — reddlx

I emailed a few professors from Oxford, well thought out emails like, I'd read their papers, explore why it was interesting to me.

Then I will tell them a bit about my skillset and attached my transcript, CV and an example of a project I've done.

Linked my LinkedIn, personal website and GitHub.

Yet there is always 0 responses back, same thing happened with Bristol University funnily enough. Everywhere else, seems to respond. Cambridge, UCL, Imperial etc, except these two in the UK. Heck even Eth responded.

I used the same email templates. Do I need to email them with my academic email, (.ac.uk)? Does my email even get through the filers? Idk what the heck is going on. Obviously not going to pursue a PhD unless they bother responding back at least.

Edit:

Was trying to save some money as Oxford is cheap, guess I have to stick to London unis. FFS.

I recently saw a post by a lady, stating she got 0 attention in a club and a few simps decided to advice me on women.

Well, I've been kicked out of university societies for my comments on them even though it is true objectively.

It's simple, if you are a average looking guy, and you send say 10 minutes on average before getting a girls number or Instagram, then you need to text then get her to meet you and then you have to travel to that venue and be normal. Being normal or non based is something I struggle with. I just say it out loud, for example I once told a girl I wanted to make killer drones.

She ignored me after. Oh well.

My point is it takes around 5 hrs to get there, instead you could be going to the gym, arranging meetings with your professor, or eating healthier meals, or reading books.

One litmus test I have is, if she can read. If they don't read anything more complicated than a tiktok reel, then I'm not afraid to say it's a low quality endeavour to try arrange a date with someone like that.

Yet the simps will disagree and defend every single women as if she was a prize on a pedestal worthy or worshipping and bowing down to. Realistically most of them aren't worth it. This also applies to these simps type of men.

Of course I'll probably be down voted for saying the truth. Because of how insecure these men are, especially towards other men who are better looking, smarter, or simply more focused on themselves.

Anyway, the smarter thing to do is to spend approximately 5 minutes and judge if they're even worth the effort. In most cases the ROI isn't there.

But sure these same men would say I'm a loser when I am more muscular, stronger then they are, and just better at them at everything on average. I'm talking in generalities before anyone of you jump through the screen to argue pointlessly.

So where does the returns make sense, if you have similar values and outlook on life, if it is easy, and they don't constantly argue it seem borderline crazy. Which is why I avoid even trying to approach anyone that has a certain sense of fashion, or presents themselves in a certain manner. I'm sure they're great people, just not someone I'd be interested in.

If you're someone like me, do yourself a favour, avoid anyone obese, facially deformed, and test them ask them what they read or how they think of problem X. See how they reason and why. That'll tell you a lot about how they think. Coloured hair is a massive red flag, so are tattoos, and crooked teeth.

My experience, just save it once you've graduated being a undergrad especially if you do STEM. International women often are less drama/stress and actually smart/culturally great, less likely to shout at you without reason.

Edit:

ROI analysis:

Average 2-4 women a month, 8 months is 32 dates or approaches for an average guy, who is focused and still balanced. Factor in time you sped going to the club, then clubbing then sleep deprivation, spending, going to the date, the date, then being rejected and no kissing etc. You are wasting anywhere from 10-15 hours per girl on average just for a chance at them being interested, the actual cost cognitively is higher due to rumours spreading about you, being banned etc.

(4 hours at club once a week times 24 whole academic year) Is 96 hours

Sleep deprivation and tiredness and it's effects on health and body, say is another 96 hours but is actually a lot higher as it ruins sleep schedule, so go for 200 hrs lost.

Time spent on going to these societies and clubs once a week just to meet a girl that isn't crazy, another 100 hours.

Time spent talking to your friends about women, on average 5 hours a week ISH approx especially as a low iq undergrad deluded guy. 120 hours.

What about social cost, rumours, banned from societies, lost opportunities, kicked out of group chats. Etc. ????

If you go clubbing at a higher frequency and go to societies at a higher frequency then bruh even worse ROI.

Time spent talking to these women who can't read during labs etc, let's say 3 hours a week, 72 hours.

Bare minimum, a guy spends approx 600 hours just for this.

Also these simps are addicted to porn, so let's add 30 minutes a day, over 24 weeks that's 84 hours. So there you go 700 hours spent on just this which the average guy does. Crazy. I didn't even include the other hidden costs. This is one extra semester if work. A new hobby, an extra holiday you can go for during this time period.

Measure your life, analysis it, and then see the ROI yourself. At best you find a lovely girl that isn't cooked that you can hopefully marry. Average case you get ghosted. Worst case what happened to me.

You can attack my personality, all you want, but my facts and proof I've provided is a mirror to your own nonsense which is why you defend your silly nonsense factual viewpoints as a deflection technique.