u/Desperate-Mistake611

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Nepopularno mišljenje: Živjeti u SAD je gore nego živjeti u Bosni.

Ne znam evo ja mislim da tu nema šta da se raspravlja, zna se kako je i šta je, jest da ima problema i korupcije u Bosni i šta ti ja znam ali NE MOŽEŠ me uvjeriti, ma ne možeš, ma neeeema šanse, da je u Americi živjeti bolje nego u Bosni. Derite se u nebo ne znam šta da vam kažem.

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u/Desperate-Mistake611 — 11 hours ago
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If you struggle with paying your bills or opening your letters, answering emails etc. Here's what you can do [Seriously] [No bullshit] [I'm for real]

EDIT: Okay so I wasn't aware that majority of users here are from United States and even less, I wasn't aware that such social assistance services arent a thing in US which I find very shocking and crazy. It really shouldn't be like that, it feels like a huge lack of basic human necessity, that just... doesn't exist there. I knew United States can be a bit different about such things, but I assumed since it's a massive country with multiple states it surely isn't all that bad and I just listened to lots of "US bad!!" propaganda... I was proven wrong. I really feel bad and I'm sorry. Forgive my ignorance.

EDIT 2: I feel very sad and ashamed for assuming everyone has access to this and I deeply apologize about this. However, many of you made it look like I am priviledged and lucky how having access to this and I have to strongly disagree with this and let me tell you why; my uncle lives in Bosnia and Herzegovina, a very sad, poor, ugly, war torn country and it is very corrupt. Not a nice place to live, even has a small area with actual ISIS members being kept in isolation in one village, so you can imagine what it's like. Another thing is, you might accidentally make a wrong step somewhere in nature and be blown up by a landmine. But guess what? The country still has PUBLIC, FREE social assistance!! Hello?? Thousand of people still get money and HOMES to live in, let alone this. Because in the rest of the world this is as basic as having toilet paper in your bathroom. So yes I rightfully so assumed a first world, most richest country had something as simple as this? Are you guys... okay..?

I saw a post of a woman that showed her accumulated unopened letters and a lot of people found themselves guilty there including me so LETS CUT TO THE POINT here's what you COULD try.

Contact your municipality of your city/state whatever and ask for an appointment with their social assistance. I know, I know, difficult and scary as shit but I promise it will be SO worth it. Just please suck it up and do it. SUCK. IT. UP!

Collect whatever paperwork you can find like late payment fees, debt, whatever you are anxious about, if you don't want to open it (I know you don't want to, I see you I am in your walls) bring all of it unopened and MOST IMPORTANTLY bring your diagnostic certificate in which it states you have ADHD. Ok?

Whine about it, complain, be miserable, say you're costing them so much time and resources because of your disability you aren't capable of fullfiling basic civil duties. Just be dramatic as hell. Bring 100 unopened letters, SHOWW THE DRAMA. I don't care bitch suck it up.

What you could expect from this outcome is a couple possible measures taken, a social worker might just ask you to sign a document stating that you give them rights to recieve and open letters for you, take necessary actions for you and once a month you would have to do ONE single total money transfer to municipality so social services can use that money to pay the bills for you. If even that is hard for you because you fear that you'll forget or be irresponsible in any way, take it a step further and you can sign additional permission for them to withdraw SPECIFIC amount of money from your account directly each month.

I did all of this myself, I live in Europe, legally they aren't obligated to do any of this for you at all but because they're financed by public with your own taxes it is likely that they will be willing to do it, especially because then they will have direct power to control your payments that benefit the city and them too. You can remove these rights from them any time you want.

My life became so much easier since and I live stress free, I just get an email once a month with detailed description of all money I owe and to who and sometimes PDF scan of informations from whatever is important to know, transfer them the money on my eBanking and that's it.

For other things like making an appointment or making phone calls for something else non related to that I have absolutely no issues with, but my boyfriend with ADHD has so I took that responsibility to do that for him when needed, so you could ask someone you trust to do the same for you.

I hope this is helpful, good luck!

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u/Desperate-Mistake611 — 16 hours ago