This has been a fight for a few weeks. Everytime I express my concern he gets so belligerent and mad. Tells me I don’t know what I’m talking about. Here the deal right now we have 2 good running cars. 2009 Hyundai azera with 130,000 miles. A Hyundai Santa Fe with 160,000 miles. The Santa Fe has both passenger doors that won’t open. He uses that car right now. I’m a stay at home mom with a 1 and 4 year old. I don’t go a lot of places right now but once our four year old starts school this coming year I will have to drive him.
His dad will be at work at pick up and drop off. His age doesn’t offer bus rides. So I will need a car unless he plans on getting all the kids up at 5am to drive him to work. I think that would be ridiculous. He wants an old truck so bad even though we genuinely barely get by as is. Right. Is I am a stay at home mom. I’ve worked night shift before and it took an incredible toll on my mind and the only people paying for it was my kids. I’ve begged to trade places with him essentially. I want to work a day shift job and come home to cook and put kids to bed- while he does a night shift job and care for children during the day.Except he has so many wants and wishes that are always self centered. He wants to trade in my good running Hyundai azera with 130,000 miles for an old 2000 model truck or even older. He says I can have the Santa Fe that only has two working doors.
I told him I don’t think it’s smart since our son starts school and we have good vehicles right now. He says he’s gonna be throwing money into that car by having to get “tires, or paying the yearly registration fee” I told him if he gets an old truck he will have the same responsibility for any car or truck we get. Except we risk getting an old truck and a big fix that we can’t afford pops up. Then what? AITA for feeling this is kind of selfish time to decide to trade in my good car for an old truck? Most the ones he’s looking at don’t even have a back seat.
Editing ti add both these cars are paid off.