u/Desperate-Dirt1595

It’s been almost 1 year of NC with everyone and LC with my mother.

I was sick since 3 days and all I wanted was a “mother” not the mother who manipulated me or acted like a victim a martyr the entire time, not the mother who subtly made me feel responsible for taking care of everyone. I wanted “a mother” who could just sit with me and take care of me… give me some warm drink to feel better… tells me that I will be fine soon.

Made me miss “home”… I don’t know what should I call home.

I wanted someone to take care of me the way I was taking care of everyone.

There was this lingering feeling of missing “home”!

My partner took care of me…
Got me warm drink, medicines, kept his hand on my forehead and immediately I felt slightly better to get up and take care of myself.

So glad I have a partner like him. If I did not go NC with my family I wouldn’t have him.

Why? Because the family could not stand my attention, time, money, love and care for anyone else except them. Not even me!

Yes, I miss them because my love was not conditional.
The thought of even getting in touch with my estranged family reminds me of all the trauma and how long it took me to be my own person.

1. Hard to find people to work - seeing so many ads for “sales job” outside a showroom.

2. Subtle or screaming division - went to a restaurant where the board said “kripya waiter se unki jaat, gaon, ya naam na puchein” , “jute beshak ander le aye lekin jaat paat etc bahar chod ke ayein”.

3. Everyone deserves respect and if not treated well people don’t give second chance to disrespect them. They will simply exit.

4. The traditional poshak some woman wear is one of the most beautiful work of art I have seen.

5. Love the ghoonghat culture from 10am to 6pm - men, woman, old, young everyone does ghoonghat for the sun. 🌞

6. Very welcoming but at the same time this happened.
   Went to a local famous restaurant the other day at 10pm. Asked them what time do they close. They said 11. At 10:30 they asked us for any last order, we ordered roti. Roti arrived at 10:40 and from 10:45 one by one people started telling us to eat fast and go they have to close. Not just the waiter but also the owner. Who came and said “bhai jaldi khao humko Jana hai. We are were like what happened to “atithi devo bhawa” bhaiya!!!
   Anyway we hurried up and left with good in our mouth still chewing it and lemonade in our hands.
   Never felt so welcomed at any restaurant ever. 😆

7. The city feels safe. No chaprees ✅ no eve teasing. Once I took e-rickshaw and 2 people were riding a bike at a speed of the rikshaw. I noticed for 3-4 minutes and then told the rikshaw wala bhaiya ji that these people are driving next to us from a long time. The way that bhaiya looked at those two people 💅🏻🥳 maza aagaya. They disappeared in seconds.

8. Those who treat everyone with kindness are treated with kindness. Those who don’t are simply ignored. 👏

9. Family friendly vibes, helpful people (ofcourse some people are different- I will simply blame that on the weather between 10am to 6pm 🤓)

Is there anything I missed?
What do you think of these observations?

Where can I look for furniture

And household items- plastic storage boxes

Plastic chairs etc

I have checked D-mart and Chabbra’s and that does not work for me.

Any recommendations ???

Contracted a company to do turnkey work for my apartment and I am regretting it.

Carpentry work is shitty

Electric work is shitty - we had short circuit 5 times in the last 3 days

Paint work is shitty

Ceiling work is shitty

The house was handed to us without move in cleaning. There was paint on the floor, cement, glue, tape, pen marks literally everywhere.

Toilet seats were opened and used - including Paan spit in the bathroom.

We have just moved here and we are so disappointed by the service provider.

Anyone knows any good carpenter who can fix the shitty work?

The service provider is a big time yapper and does absolute nothing.

Already paid 95% to him and now we are hanging in the middle of unfinished project.