Hi everyone, l've recently found out I was pregnant. Both me and my partner are young ( 21) and we are planning on NOT keeping it. Even though I would love to but I am not at the place right now to support a child or be there for them to the fullest - I'm still in uni and working part time.
So me and my partner have been together for 2 years now, we have had our problems from the past however recently he has been very distant since finding out. And I told him that I would really love some support from you and reassurance with what I am going through as it's not easy regardless of what decision is made
He said that he will support me and reassurance assure me - this past week when I have been feeling upset or emotional he has not been there for me at all - he tells me to stop crying
- and when I tell him I need someone here rn to talk and comfort me he's not there
However side note - he has been hanging out with his friends too much lately like 5/7 days this week and hasn't been seeing me as much either especially when I need him rn
I got emotional last night and had a feeling he's pretending to care about me or pretend to be there for me emotionally as he's being distant - as he's told me that he does pretend he's emotionally available for me during an argument and that he doesn't feel connected with me. I asked him to come see me after he's done hanging out with his friends
And I was losing it so much spam messaging him because I needed him at that moment but he wasn't there for me
But i said if his friends asked him to come see them if they were upset he would go in a heart beat. He also then said when he found out I was pregnant a thought went into his mind that does he really want me to be the mother to his kids one day? And that broke me tbh
He's now saying he wants space and to spend some time apart after the abortion, this is the time I need him the most.
And during this argument he also brought up how I wanna get married and settle down by 26-28 and kids by 30 - he said that he wants to do it when he’s 30-35 as he wants to “ enjoy “ his 20s
I said don’t you wanna have a wife and kids - he said yes Ofc but it’s too early for him
He does not care at all
I love him so much but this is hurting me too much and idk what to do
Pls give me your thoughts
**TL;DR; : This is a sample summary of the TLDR rule, all things are bold. Is this going the right way?**.