the 'to shave or not to shave' discourse is very annoying. having a preference is fine, but there’s a huge difference between 'i prefer this look' and 'i expect my partner to change their natural body for my comfort and i don’t care about how they feel’. in reference to body hair. and don’t get me started on the women who shame other women by calling them plucked chickens or prepubescent girls for shaving. it’s disgusting and neither side can win. mature communication isn't finding a nice way to pressure your partner into changing themselves because you don’t find their body hair attractive. it’s about realizing that if someone’s own shaving preferences are a dealbreaker for you, then thats not their responsibility to change for you.
respecting your partners choice is basic decency. while everyone has a preference you don’t treat your partner like they’re gross for having something natural like body hair. you don’t demand they change their boundaries to make you comfortable. if you’re trying to get them to change then you don’t respect them at all. i hate that this even has to be an issue and this makes me consider if this space is even right for me.
eta:. the fact that other peoples posts saying people can do what they want with their bodies just proves my point lol.