My fiancé and I met in Sept. 2024 and made it official in Nov. 2024, we found out I was pregnant in Jan. 2025. A month before we found out I was pregnant, I 27 y/o female was in a tight spot in my life and didn’t currently have a vehicle. I had just finished school and was working at a hospital on the complete opposite side of town from where I lived because it was the only position I was able to get at the time. (I had a car when I completed the interview). So, I had been pay nearly $50 both ways to and from work every day and it became too much. At the time my partner, 24 y/o male, had been picking me up from my house so that I could spend the night with him at his house (about a 20 minute drive) almost every night but he would complain about having to pick me up everyday and some night I would just stay home so that I wouldn’t feel like a burden. I live in a state far away from any family and eventually the cost of the Ubers to and from work became too much and…. I asked my ex-boyfriend to give me rides to and from work so that I could save money. I know that was completely stupid, but hear me out? I was afraid to ask my boyfriend because I already felt like a burden and the ex-boyfriend had put me through a lot so I didn’t feel bad for asking him to do so much. At the time when I asked, I had moved on from the relationship. I was completely in love with my man (24M) and I just really needed help and had no one else I could ask. Now, another really stupid thing I did was, the ex-boyfriend told me that I basically would have to stay the night at his house a night because he wouldn’t be able to drive to pick me up from home and take me to work ( he literally lived about 10-15 minutes from my job at the time ) NOTHING HAPPENED between us while I stayed the night there, we didn’t sleep together or even touch one another. I simply went to sleep and got up the next morning to go to work. Which, I know sounds like a complete lie, but that is really what happened. Let me also include, I had been broken up with the ex-boyfriend for a good long while before any of this happened so neither of us were really interested in one another by that point. not long after we found out that I was pregnant, I stopped getting rides from the ex-boyfriend. And about a month later, my boyfriend (24M) found out what I had done. It was a really tough time; I came clean and told him everything that happened and of course he believed nothing I told him (rightfully so) and it took us a while to get over that. We did decide to keep the baby and try to fix our relationship. Our relationship continued to grow through my pregnancy, he took great care of me and went to every doctors appointment with me. He ended up losing his job when I was about 4-5 months pregnant and I ended up being the only one working for the rest of my pregnancy. We grew much closer in that time and once I had the baby we stayed together and continued to love one another. He took such great care of me through postpartum and he was with me every step of the way during the birth of our baby. I agreed to have a paternity test done as soon as we left the hospital to prove that the baby was his and hopefully prove my claim that I did not cheat on him during the time I was getting rides from the ex-boyfriend. And of course, the test came back proving the baby was his. Fast forward to Feb. 2026, the baby and I left on a trip with my Fiancée’s family and while we were gone I noticed my fiancé acting oddly toward me. In April, 2026 I finally found out why…. While on the trip, my fiancée got onto Reddit and met 2 girls who he ended up exchanging nudes with on Snapchat, he’d sent them videos of himself and pictures.. and saved videos and photos of both girls in his phone and other devices. He engaged in sexual conversations and essentially had cyber sex with these girls and I found all of it in a hidden photo album on his phone where he’d been keeping photos and videos of me as well…. When I confronted him about it, he told me that he did it because he’d fallen out of love with me when he caught me in what I was doing and he was seeking some type of emotional feelings that he hadn’t felt for me in over a year… of course I was PISSED and so I packed myself and the baby and we left. He went on to tell me that he felt we needed to just go our separate ways because he’d been lying to me and pretending to want us to be together because he knew I would leave if he told me he wasn’t in love anymore…. And I agreed, I told him that we could go through the attorney generals office to set up 50/50 custody and figure it out from there as far as setting up some type of structure for our child. A few days later, my baby and I returned home an he told me he wanted us to stay together and work it out because he misspoke saying that he wasn’t in love and what he meant was that he’d held onto resentment for all of that time and now that he got caught it gave him perspective and made him realize that he was too hard on me when I made my mistake.
I’m open to hearing any opinions and how any of you would handle this situation… I really don’t know where to go from here with our relationship. I feel like the cheating is one thing, but to tell me that you’re not in love with me after you got caught and say that’s the reason you did it, and then expect us to stay together makes absolutely no sense….
Edit: I forgot to mention that he found a pretty good job and started a week after our baby was born and I am now a stay at home mom.