u/Delicious_Arm9946

as a woman, when i’m in a relationship with a man that i find very attractive, the idea of other women touching him makes me very uncomfortable. why would i want to share him? here is the best analogy i can think of: if someone were to find the most beautiful gem in the world, would you want to pass it around to anyone and everyone? or would you rather keep it to yourself and treasure it? i want to clarify that this is just an analogy, obviously people aren’t shiny rocks, but if i deeply treasure something, why the hell would i want someone getting their hands all over it?

i know some people could make the argument that they have faith in their partner to not develop emotional connections with other people/ prioritize people other than their “main partner” (that’s what it’s called i guess). but that really isn’t the point. if i’m in a relationship with someone i find deeply attractive, the last thing i would want is the idea of another person having access to him physically. the idea makes me ill. the only way i could see myself not caring is if im very detached from the relationship and dont find the hypothetical partner all that attractive.

edit: thank you my poly kings and queens, the intense hostility has shown me that the poly community is one of the kindest groups of people on the entire globe. this definitely helps me understand your viewpoint. the concept of jealousy is for fools and anyone that feels it has a black heart filled with hatred.

let me start by saying our relationship has been very loving and close for several years. but the last year he’s gotten so much worse, and its causing resentment.

he’s so fucking selfish. he doesn’t care about anyone but himself. he never contacts me unless he needs something. he couldn’t care less about showing up for days that i plan out for us to do fun things. like he literally just doesn’t show up. it feels like im constantly having to cross a river for him and he refuses to jump over a puddle for me. i can’t remember the last time he initiated wanting to hang out with me. i bought video games for us to play together and he never bothers coming over to game, even when i repeatedly ask him to. i feel like if i ceased to exist he wouldn’t even fucking notice.

i’m sorry if i sound angry but im so heartbroken. why the fuck does he care so little about me. why does he only care about himself. we live in the same city and he’s only visited me 3 times over the course of several months. i hate this. and i think im starting to hate him. i’m done.

and before anyone says: ohhhh it’s okay it’s just because he’s autistic. i’ve brought this up to him so many times and nothings changed. he just doesn’t care. and i shouldn’t have to tolerate this just because he has autism (he’s extremely high functioning by the way).

i’m a minor i don’t understand what they’re saying but i feel like it’s bad

swiping feels like going to a car dealership and comparing makes and models and picking whichever one looks the best. but humans aren’t cars. we’re living beings with souls and feelings and entire life stories. but we’re being seen like factory lineups. swiping on apps just makes me feel empty inside. humans aren’t supposed to be perceived like this. no wonder empathy is on the decline. it makes me so sad.

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i can’t even put into words how i’m able to tell, so i’m wondering if someone else can? for example if you put a photo of an american man next to a slavic man, i’ll be able to tell which one is slavic instantly. what is it about their features that makes them look different?

her trials make me want to break a barrel over my head, killing myself instantly. the least the devs could do is give us some nipple action.

i’m 5’1” and i can’t carry heavy things but i’m good at hiding. i think maybe i would live but probably not

i love the sunshine and doing things outside going to cafes, walks, the beach etc. clear days make me really happy! the sky looked awesome outside today and i checked the weather on my phone (i always do this before going outside, i live in FL so random rainstorms are common) and saw it was 92 degrees (Fahrenheit) outside! like what the heck no way im going out in that !

lately i’ve noticed i stay inside a bit more often to work on my intensive pieces. before id go outside about 4ish times a week, now its down to two days a week. can anyone else relate? is this normal for more intensive pieces or should i try to prioritize being outside as often as before?

a question specifically for women (or gay men) i guess.

im not lesbian. for the love of god, i will roll my eyes out of my head if someone says that i am. im not interested in women at all physically. i am attracted to men. i have sexual fantasies about men. but it feels so ew when they try to get physical with me. i don’t like when they kiss me or suggestively touch me. the other day a guy placed a hand on my thigh while flirting and i physically jumped. it just feels so… gross.

however i *do* find PIV very arousing, and enjoy it a ton. but outside of that i just… don’t like when men try to come on to me sexually. im okay with holding hands, leaning on his shoulder, etc. but any touch that i can tell is an attempt to progress to sex makes me want to push him away. can anyone relate??

edit: don’t want people thinking im attracted to Ultra Chad types. that’s not my thing at all. i like men that are kind of attractive and kind of ugly. i’m really, really, *really* attracted to that kind of look. im head over heels for it honestly. but unfortunately a man with that look is hard to find.

im not lesbian. i have sexual fantasies about men. but it feels so ew when they want to get physical with me. i don’t like when they kiss me or suggestively touch me. the other day a guy placed a hand on my thigh while flirting and i physically jumped. it just feels so… gross.

however i *do* find PIV very arousing, and enjoy it a ton. but outside of that i just… don’t like when men try to come on to me sexually. im okay with holding hands, leaning on his shoulder, etc. but any touch that i can tell is an attempt to progress to sex makes me want to push him away. can anyone relate?!is that normal?

i’ve been working on refining my art for a portfolio and it feels like i blinked and two weeks went by before my last application. im pretty psyched out/frustrated at myself for not applying in a while. i absolutely do not plan on making a habit of this but me focusing on pieces and life kind of happening lead to this.

please tell me this isn’t super bad. i mean if it is, i prefer honesty. has this happened to anyone else?

i’ve been working on refining my art for a portfolio and it feels like i blinked and two weeks went by before my last application. im pretty psyched out/frustrated at myself for not applying in a while. i absolutely do not plan on making a habit of this but me focusing on pieces and life kind of happening lead to this.

please tell me this isn’t super bad. i mean if it is, i prefer honesty. has this happened to anyone else?

i’ve been working on refining my art for a portfolio and it feels like i blinked and two weeks went by before my last application. im pretty psyched out/frustrated at myself for not applying in a while. i absolutely do not plan on making a habit of this but me focusing on pieces and life kind of happening lead to this.

please tell me this isn’t super bad. i mean if it is, i prefer honesty. has this happened to anyone else?