Trying But Struggling Again
Hey,
So, my girlfriend (25) split with me (27) in December for the reason that she wanted to focus more of her last year of study as she was struggling and the distance was hurting her. We started close distance but it grew long distance for the last 4 months due to her study as she went back home to complete her last year. We were together for 3.5 years.
So, we split but remained in little contact. For example, she’d reach out every now and then and id do the same. It gave me some hope bc i was absolutely heartbroken over the situation but figured it wasn’t too much my fault and the reasons for our split were out of control.
I changed my mindset and went really hard on self improvement as most people do after a tough break up. I’ve been hitting the gym twice as hard, I got a promotion at work and I’ve started a lotta new hobbies which was keeping me distracted and busy which defo helped keep my mind off things. Yes, I’d still have moments where I’d cry and be heartbroken but overall I was trying to deal w it.
Then, last week I noticed I was removed on all socials which I found strange so I reached out and asked why. She said it was a mistake and she‘d look after class and try figure out what happened. I didn’t believe a word of this and in typical fashion, she didn’t reach back out.
Then, this weekend I was out drinking w friends and I bumped into a friend of hers who I was also okay with but she was definitely her friend. We had a good chat and my ex was obviously brought up in this convo. This is where he friend dropped a bombshell that she’s been in a relationship since February to me which really surprised me. She then also said, that prior to the relationship she had been speaking to this guy a few months and that’s when it clicked that there was clearly an overlap and it brought back an insane amount of emotion. All the work I done trying to get over it just came back to me, and now I’m back in the same position I was in December and really dunno how to get out of this position so thought I’d ask for any asvice/help. Do I reach out and tell her how fucking horrible she actually is or do I just leave it and never contact her again?