I dont know what to do anymore tbh, I did self-harm today after 3 years. This pattern happens only when I live w/ my family. I am 21F, and I was in med school before this, cuz of external factors (nothing to do w/ me or my academics), I had to leave the university and come back home. My brother is a doc now from an Ivy League uni, and I dont know, I feel like no matter what I do w/ my life, I will always get told that I'm a failure. It's like having millions of achievements, yet the one failure is always brought up. I genuinely can't do this anymore. The plan was to apply to med school again/transfer somewhere else, but I keep hearing how dumb a student I am from my parents. Ik my dad has always been misogynistic, and I can't change that. I've been arguing since I was a child, but idk ive fought through my career until now for the past 20 years. It's a lot; he wants me to go to Australia and get a random degree. Which ik ill be jobless after graduation, and then he will forcefully marry me away. I can't anymore. Why can't God just take me? I just wanted my career to work out. Is that too much to ask? Like, I don't need anything else from him. Why have I been going through shit from the day that I was born?
My dad never wanted me to study med or engineering cuz I am the dumb child, even after receiving multiple scholarships. My mom is blind to it, she is like we both support you, if we didnt dad wouldn't be funding your education. Like money isn't everything?! thats like giving someone food and then mocking them to the point they can't eat.
I'm tired of everything I've been pushing through it all for years now. Why can't I be at peace for once? If I were living in my home country, I would've fulfilled my childhood dream of running away from my house long ago. All I wanted to do was study med, but the competition somehow increased this year, and idk if I'm getting in, but sometimes I ask myself, what's the whole point of looking after ppl and treating them, being so selfless when nobody is there to save me, when most ppl are just selfish and care about themselves. When there are docs like my brother.