u/Decent-Eye-1981

I am typing this as I cry and as my chest tightens. I just need to vent.

I have been dating an avoidant guy and it really drains me so much. We had a miscommunication last night and I really felt that he got disappointed with me. I tried communicating with him, I said sorry multiple times. Instead of talking it, he just stopped communicating.

Up till today no contact pa rin kami, I’ve been trying to reach him by calling his number, messenger, and instagram. But wala eh no response, and I think he restricted me na rin.

It hurts so much. I am an atheist but andito ako ngayon sa simbahan umiiyak para makaramdaman ng kaginhawaan. Sa sobrang sakit hindi ko na alam ang gagawin ko, kung sino ang lalapitan ko.

Like what do you mean na hindi niya ako pinapansin ngayon due to a miscommunication. I’ve been contacting her, messaging her through all her socmeds, pero no pansin. Instead of fixing the situation by talking, she always opt to push me away, isolate herself, and stop communicating suddenly. I understand naman yung situation niya pero as a very anxious person hindi ko alam kung ano mangyayari samin, especially in the near future.

Minsan nagsasabi rin siya na umalis nalang ako, iwanan ko nalang daw eka siya. Like why is it easy for her to say such things.

Problem/Goal: I found out my girlfriend’s reddit account accidentally. On one of her post, she termed me as her “hook up” rather than her “boyfriend”.

Context: I don’t know what to feel about what my partner did. Should I make a big deal about this? I mean hindi pa naman kami katagalan pero masakit lang sa side ko na hindi niya ako matawag na “boyfriend”.

Wala rin namang nangyayari saming physically intimate rather than online stuff kaya I dont know why tinawag niya akong ka “hook up”.

Problem/Goal: In a relationship with someone who has extreme avoidant issues.

Context: Hi! I am in a relationship with an avoidant. Wala naman akong other problem sa kanya bukod sa avoidant talaga siya. When we fight, it’s always na pinapaalis niya ako, iwanan ko nalang daw siya something like that. Then magkakabati kami, tapos mararamdaman ko clingy side niya (and freaky side too). And the cycle repeats. I really love this person pero parang nahihirapan ako na paulit-ulit yung nangyayari samin because of him being avoidant. I dont know what to do.

Problem/Goal: I want to have sex as safe as possible.

Context: Hi! I M20 will be having sex with someone I met on FB dating.We’ve been talking for a month na and we just planned to do the deed next week.

Since I have no prior experience I do not know if condom-lube is enough for safe sex. We’re only planning to try it and not make sex a common thing for us.

I have searched about PrEP pills but I found out that you need to take them daily pala, however, as I said na we’re only doing it once.