u/Dear_Dragonfruit3317

▲ 0 r/self

People who invoke the Dunning-Kruger effect are usually guilty of it by their own definition.

A pet peeve of mine is when someone brings up the Dunning-Kruger effect. Anytime I see it I know some dumb smug shit is about to follow. People overwhelmingly use it erroneously in regards to intelligence. The irony is they’re committing the same sin they’re accusing others of by not using the term correctly.

“Among laypeople, the Dunning–Kruger effect is often misunderstood as the claim that people with low intelligence are more confident in their knowledge and skills than people with high intelligence. According to psychologist Robert D. McIntosh and his colleagues, it is sometimes understood in popular culture as the claim that "stupid people are too stupid to know they are stupid". But the Dunning–Kruger effect applies not to intelligence in general but to skills in specific tasks.

reddit.com

AIO for not getting to see my friend again before they move?

I swung by their place the other night because she wanted to give me leftovers for dinner. I was aware that she was moving but there wasn’t indication this was the last time we’d see each other before moving cross country. I get being stressed but I felt some of her responses a bit cold.

Edit: It’s a male/female friendship of about two years. We used to work at the same company until I quit and she was my manager. We were close at work and after hours (texting). She was married up until a few months ago when she got a divorce. We’ve discussed that we don’t have romantic feelings for each other.

We haven’t hung out in person too often. For most of our friendship she has been married with kids, but her and her husband invited me over for dinner when we were still at the same company.

We mostly have a texting relationship since leaving the company. Sometimes she calls me when she’s on a road trip. She has taken me out to lunch a few times and loves to give me leftovers that she cooks.

This past New Year’s Eve she called me and we talked on FaceTime for a few hours and rung in new years together on the phone. She invited me to go to the beach the next day.

I had a surgical procedure recently and she was the one to drive me there and back, and stay during the surgery.

Last week she was pleading to give me a seemingly lump sum of money because I’m about to be homeless and she wants to help me.

Edit 2: Some of you are right. I shouldn’t have said she better say goodbye. I didn’t intend it in the way it may have come across. I could have asked if she had time to meet up instead.

u/Dear_Dragonfruit3317 — 6 days ago