u/David_1997bi

*Context* (GF 26) Has a male best friend who lives in a different city hour away. They’ve been close since high school. He’s (M26) will call him John. John has 2 kids both twins and has a girlfriend (baby mama). No past or history or so my GF says.

I feel like my girlfriend slowly, pulling away from me and I’ve honestly been trying to fix it, but it feels weird. So my girlfriend has this guy, best friend John who lives in a different city in our way and recently she brought up moving to the city for better job opportunities. I didn’t think much of it until I started noticing she was being a little bit more distant.

I feel like she noticed this recently too as she’s been doing damage control, and being a lot more affectionate and intimate than she has in the past. I’ve told her how John has made me feel uncomfortable texting all the time and talking behind my back. Upfront I told her it was a dealbreaker for our relationship. She agreed, and she also mentioned how his baby mama didn’t like their relationship so she decided to cut it off.

Months later, his name comes up as we’re laying in bed together. Not in an intimate kind of way, but more of she was catching up on his life. I feel like she knew she messed up when I asked her who she was looking at and his name came up nonchalantly. I didn’t say anything, hoping she would bring it up, but she didn’t say anything. Now I’m wondering if all of this is starting to connect together or if I’m just being paranoid.

TL;DR my girlfriend games a lot on Arc and Fortnite regularly with randoms and some friends. But I recently caught some old chats with somebody I’ve never heard her discussed before. They were very intimate chat and nudes sent of them both and it dates back before we started dating, but she didn’t mention this to me when I saw it in her inbox, but she didn’t bring it up. It’s just weird how she said she hated all of her exes since they were all just trash but she keeps old chats like this around. Help?

My girlfriend lets call her Diana, (F26) she has a guy best friend they met in HS who is in a relationship and has a 2 kids, not married mind you. We’ve had talks in the past where I was uncomfortable, and I’ve told her specifically that I did not like her talking one on one with her male best friend. You can call me insecure or whatever but I feel like boundaries are necessary. She would talk about a relationship with him, not filling me on any information that she talked about with him. Finally, she agreed to cut off contact with him for the benefit of our relationship. And I told her if I feel this way, imagine how his partner might feel. This past weekend when we were laying in our bed together, she made a noise that you make when babies are in the room or your pet. When I asked her what she was looking at on her phone, she gave me her male best friend‘s name who supposedly cut contact and unfollowed on all social media. I don’t know if she slipped up or made a mistake, but she didn’t mention anything after that about him. I wanted to bring it up, but something stopped me from saying anything to see how it played out. So far, she hasn’t mentioned anything of it and I feel like she’s doing damage control because she’s been very affectionate and more open to intimate things lately. Is there something I’m missing?