u/DavidDawnDeluxe

Hi, David here!

Too often I see the promotion of the No Contact Rule (cutting off all contract with a person) as a Machiavellian way of purposely inciting anxiety in another person to exploit their mind’s fear of loss in order to make them come back to you. While this can work with people who are addicted to needing external validation and wanting what they can’t have, its not useful for forming healthy long-term relationships.

You attract what you are. If you play validation games, you will attract other people who play games. And these are not the types of people with which you can build a healthy relationship.

Rather than playing games, you should instead become a person who actually has enough of a full and interesting life that you are not making that other person your sole focus. Shift your focus from trying to please another person to instead focusing on improving your own life.

Women often lose interest in a guy who they find as too easy, not a challenge, who seems desperate, smothers them with attention, tries to get too serious too fast, or makes her the primary focus of his life.

Most women want to be invited along as an accompanying member to a man’s already awesome life rather than being the sole focus of the man’s life. Focus on building a life that others would want to join.

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Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Hi, David here!

When you know your values and are living your life in line with your values, you will naturally bring people into your life who share those values.

While its still equally important to take action and insert yourself into situations where you can interact with new people, the greatest factor which determines on average the caliber of people that surround you is YOU.

Who would you be more attracted to? A positive person who is striving to better their life and does not become jealous of other's successes. OR a person who is resigned to their current status and just mopes and complains about everything.

The daily choices that you make on a how you choose to approach life are what will in the end determine your results.

​

Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Hi, David here!

When a woman feels like you are actively trying to impress her, she may think that you are overcompensating for something else. It is often insecure people who feel the greatest need to prove themselves.

And if you don’t even think that you are good enough, why should the woman (possibly someone that you just met) think anything different?

By trying to immediately win a new person over, you are instantly communicating that you either want something from them or think that they are above you. Neither of which is attractive.

Imagine what the behaviors of a self-secure, confident, high value man with tons of options would look like. Would he actively be trying to impress a girl he liked? No. He would assume from the start that there is no reason that he is not good enough and thus not feel the need to try to actively sell himself. The attractive traits of confidence and self-worth are implied when a person does not come off as a try-hard.

​

Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Hi, David here!

Rejection is the result of not being successful at achieving a specific outcome. Normally the desired outcome is for another person to like you.

You should redefine in your mind what you consider a successful outcome.

This new definition should not be dependent on external factors such as other people’s actions, but be solely dependent on your own actions.

Define success as being willing to start a conversation or interaction.

Define success as being willing to put yourself out there.

Define success as not being afraid of making your honest interests and intentions known.

These are metrics for success that you can succeed at 100% of the time as long as you are willing to take action.

You can't be rejected if your desired outcome was to simply start a conversation and give the other person the opportunity to get to know you.

The beauty of this is, when the other person detects that you are self-fulfilled and don’t want or need anything from them, the probability of them being willing to take you up on what you offer skyrockets.

​

Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Hi, David here!

Rejection is the result of not being successful at achieving a specific outcome. Normally the desired outcome is for another person to like you.

You should redefine in your mind what you consider a successful outcome.

This new definition should not be dependent on external factors such as other people’s actions, but be solely dependent on your own actions.

Define success as being willing to start a conversation or interaction.

Define success as being willing to put yourself out there.

Define success as not being afraid of making your honest interests and intentions known.

These are metrics for success that you can succeed at 100% of the time as long as you are willing to take action.

You can't be rejected if your desired outcome was to simply start a conversation and give the other person the opportunity to get to know you.

The beauty of this is, when the other person detects that you are self-fulfilled and don’t want or need anything from them, the probability of them being willing to take you up on what you offer skyrockets.

​

Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Hi, David here!

When initially starting out, you should redefine in your mind what you consider a successful outcome. It is quiet unrealistic to expect that you will become a natural Casanova within a week. If that's the sole metric for success against which you measure yourself, then its almost inevitable that you will become disappointed and discouraged.

Your initial definition of success should not be dependent on external factors such as other people’s actions, but be solely dependent on your own actions.

Define success as being willing to start a conversation or interaction.

Define success as being willing to put yourself out there.

Define success as not being afraid of making your honest interests and intentions known.

These are metrics for success that you can succeed at 100% of the time as long as you are willing to take action.

You can't be rejected if your desired outcome was to simply start a conversation and give the other person the opportunity to get to know you.

The beauty of this is, when the other person detects that you are self-fulfilled and don’t want or need anything from them, the probability of them being willing to take you up on what you offer skyrockets.

​

Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Hi, David here!

When initially starting out, you should redefine in your mind what you consider a successful outcome. It is quiet unrealistic to expect that you will become a natural Casanova within a week. If that's the sole metric for success against which you measure yourself, then its almost inevitable that you will become disappointed and discouraged.

Your initial definition of success should not be dependent on external factors such as other people’s actions, but be solely dependent on your own actions.

Define success as being willing to start a conversation or interaction.

Define success as being willing to put yourself out there.

Define success as not being afraid of making your honest interests and intentions known.

These are metrics for success that you can succeed at 100% of the time as long as you are willing to take action.

You can't be rejected if your desired outcome was to simply start a conversation and give the other person the opportunity to get to know you.

The beauty of this is, when the other person detects that you are self-fulfilled and don’t want or need anything from them, the probability of them being willing to take you up on what you offer skyrockets.

​

Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Hi, David here!

Whenever I went out dancing with an extremely attractive female friend, other woman could not take their eyes off me. Starting random conversation with any of these women was incredibly easy, since they would be immediately open and warm towards me.

On nights when I would visit the same venue alone, much more effort was required on my part to successfully engage the women present.

On one occasion, I approached a woman there and asked her to dance with me. Her immediate response was to decline. A moment later, my attractive friend came over to inform me that she was going to step outside for a minute.

The three seconds of social proof provided to me by my attractive friend, were enough to cause the other woman to reverse her position and want to dance.

​

Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Hi, David here!

Whenever I went out dancing with an extremely attractive female friend, other woman could not take their eyes off me. Starting random conversation with any of these women was incredibly easy, since they would be immediately open and warm towards me.

On nights when I would visit the same venue alone, much more effort was required on my part to successfully engage the women present.

On one occasion, I approached a woman there and asked her to dance with me. Her immediate response was to decline. A moment later, my attractive friend came over to inform me that she was going to step outside for a minute.

The three seconds of social proof provided to me by my attractive friend, were enough to cause the other woman to reverse her position and want to dance.

​

Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Hi, David here!

It's almost always better to ask someone out as soon as you know that you are interested in them.

If you keep putting it off for weeks and months, then you are only further hurting your chances of being successful.

A woman wants a confident man who is not afraid to ask her out. The confidence itself being the very thing that contributes most to a man's attractiveness. A woman can often detect that you like her, so any hesitance or fear to make a move detracts from your image.

In addition, the more 'secretly' infatuated and invested that you become in a person, the harder it will be for you to act confidently and normal around them. Again detracting from your chances of being successful.

If your interest in someone gets to the point where asking them out feels like a big confession of love moment, then in most cases it is not going to end well.

The best time to act was yesterday, the next best time is today.

​

Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Hi, David here!

Some men are afraid to be even slightly disagreeable with women out of fear that they may like them less because of it. The truth is that a little bit of friction in a conversation is a good thing that can lead to attraction. It proves that the man is not simply trying to tell a woman what he thinks she wants to hear.

A woman can detected when a man is just being 'nice' as a way of bartering for her attention, affection, love, approval or sex. In these cases, the man is often hiding his true interests and intentions. A woman needs to believe that a man is speaking honestly with her so that she can accurately use his words to form an opinion about him. A woman wants to feel confident that she knows what she is getting.

By being less 'nice,' I am not suggesting that you should purposely be mean or unkind to another person. You should simply allow any natural friction or tension to occur that may result from you expressing your true thoughts and beliefs.

A man who is willing to stand up for his own ideas, beliefs and values is more attractive than a man who instantly caves on his position at the hint of disagreement.

​

Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Hi, David here!

You should not fear or become aggravated when a woman tests you in an initial interaction. Being tested is a sign that a woman has some interest in you. If she was not interested in you at all, she would simply just dismiss you or make polite conversation. Instead, she is trying to verify in an accelerated manner that the person she just met is the cool, confident and congruent person that he appears to be.

To pass these tests, you only need to recognize that you are being tested and not have it affect your demeanor.

Your best action may even be to ignore her remarks or questions altogether.

You should not feel the need to prove or qualify yourself to a woman that you just met. Later on, when you have developed greater self-confidence and abundance, you will become unresponsive to congruence tests as a result of literally just not caring.

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Here are common congruence tests that women give along with some potential answers.

Common Congruence Tests

Test: The woman stares into your eyes to see if you can comfortably hold eye contact.

Answer: Comfortably hold eye contact.

Test: She brings up a sexual topic and looks to see if it makes you uncomfortable.

Answer: Speak about the topic with confidence and do not immediately shy away from it.

Test: Compares you to another man saying: “I think the waiter is cute.”

Answer: Do not appear jealous, and perhaps even agree with her.

Test: Introduces you to her guy friend who is physically superior to you.

Answer: Do not appear intimidated, and joke with him about the girl. “How can you be in public with this girl. Haha.”

Test: Points out one of your short comings.

Answer: Do not become defensive. Re-frame it as a strength or laugh about it. Show that you fully embrace all of who you are and that her opinion does not concern you.

​

Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Hi, David here!

We often perform the role of secondary characters in our own lives, doing little to impact or direct the overall plot. In some cases, we even play the part of the villain by self-sabotaging ourselves. If this sounds like you, then it’s time to recast yourself as the hero of your own life.

The hero’s journey always contains struggle. Without a struggle to overcome, you can’t even be a hero. Be glad that having something to struggle over gives you this opportunity instead of complaining about it.

There are heroic choices constantly being presented to you. Think of how a hero would act when faced by them.

Would a hero introduce himself to a cute girl sitting at a coffee shop, or choose to say nothing and have the opportunity forever slip away?

Would a hero hide his true beliefs and desires, or unapologetically let them be known?

Would a hero work to get better, or instantly give up at the first sign of defeat?

Be a catalyst for things occurring. Organize events. Be the one that asks others to join you in doing something. And if no one else wants to join an activity, be brave enough to still do it by yourself.

Don’t wait for someone or something else to save you. Do your own bit of saving.

​

Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Hi, David here!

We often perform the role of secondary characters in our own lives, doing little to impact or direct the overall plot. In some cases, we even play the part of the villain by self-sabotaging ourselves. If this sounds like you, then it’s time to recast yourself as the hero of your own life.

The hero’s journey always contains struggle. Without a struggle to overcome, you can’t even be a hero. Be glad that having something to struggle over gives you this opportunity instead of complaining about it.

There are heroic choices constantly being presented to you. Think of how a hero would act when faced by them.

Would a hero introduce himself to a cute girl sitting at a coffee shop, or choose to say nothing and have the opportunity forever slip away?

Would a hero hide his true beliefs and desires, or unapologetically let them be known?

Would a hero work to get better, or instantly give up at the first sign of defeat?

Be a catalyst for things occurring. Organize events. Be the one that asks others to join you in doing something. And if no one else wants to join an activity, be brave enough to still do it by yourself.

Don’t wait for someone or something else to save you. Do your own bit of saving.

​

Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Hi, David here!

One of the most powerful things that a pause can convey is the fact that you are not being reactive. A short pause or silence before you respond to another person shows that you are grounded and not easily shaken or made uncomfortable by their words or the situation. It also gives you time to collect your thoughts and not respond in a purely emotional way.

In some cases its ok to even completely dismiss something or not respond to it at all. Especially if it is illogical, non-meaningful or only being done to provoke you. You can frame something as being so far-fetched or ridiculous that it’s not even worth acknowledging.

Many guys make the mistake of reacting to other peoples judgments by instantly qualifying themselves. They become either defensive or unnecessary apologetic over something that another person may of took the slightest offence to or disagreed with it. A defensive posture communicates that one is not self-secure, while an overly apologetic reaction shows a lack of conviction as well as confidence in yourself.

Such behavior can also convey neediness, where you so heavily desire the other person to like or accept you that you are willing to change what you say. And if you are willing to change what you say in order to get another person to like you, that means that you are not communicating honestly. And if a person does not feel like you are truly being your honest self with them, then they won’t trust you, respect you or find you attractive.

So the next time you feel the need the instantly blurt out an emotional retort to someone, try pausing first instead.

​

Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Hi, David here!

One of the most powerful things that a pause can convey is the fact that you are not being reactive. A short pause or silence before you respond to another person shows that you are grounded and not easily shaken or made uncomfortable by their words or the situation. It also gives you time to collect your thoughts and not respond in a purely emotional way.

In some cases its ok to even completely dismiss something or not respond to it at all. Especially if it is illogical, non-meaningful or only being done to provoke you. You can frame something as being so far-fetched or ridiculous that it’s not even worth acknowledging.

Many guys make the mistake of reacting to other peoples judgments by instantly qualifying themselves. They become either defensive or unnecessary apologetic over something that another person may of took the slightest offence to or disagreed with it. A defensive posture communicates that one is not self-secure, while an overly apologetic reaction shows a lack of conviction as well as confidence in yourself.

Such behavior can also convey neediness, where you so heavily desire the other person to like or accept you that you are willing to change what you say. And if you are willing to change what you say in order to get another person to like you, that means that you are not communicating honestly. And if a person does not feel like you are truly being your honest self with them, then they won’t trust you, respect you or find you attractive.

So the next time you feel the need the instantly blurt out an emotional retort to someone, try pausing first instead.

​

Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Hi, David here!

Technical people, that is people who work in areas such as engineering, mathematics, computer science, etc., often have problems communicating in casual social environments.

Their primary issue is due to not understanding the difference between communicating information and communicating emotions.

Attraction (either generic or romantic) is not created by what you logically say but instead by what you emotionally convey. Some of the most important information, such as if a person seems honest and trustworthy, is primarily communicated via the emotions felt during the interaction. The same is true about attractive traits such as confidence and high self-esteem. You cannot logically convince someone to like you.

In addition, technical people often get stuck in their own heads and over analyze every little thing in an interaction. The act of trying to process and interpret every piece of information takes you out of the present moment, making it even more difficult to communicate authentically on an emotional level.

​

Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David