I’m the gf and my bf of 14 months has been cheating with a woman who is engaged and about to be married in June. I don’t know the fiancee and have never met this woman. I was cheated on in my marriage.
Do I tell him so he has all of the information (regardless of the outcome) or should I not?
Would you want to know?
Did you inform the other party? And is so, was it a good decision for YOU.
Hi all,
Dating a man for just over a year. We were casual and then around Christmas starting getting more serious. We were not exclusive but agreed to disclose if we were thinking about being intimate with anyone else. Spoiler alert I was the only one serious about this.
We recently decided to focus on each other. Today I found out he is in Portugal with another woman.
Turns out he’s been dating her the entire time. She knows about me and she is engaged. In fact, it was her bachelorette last Saturday and then she took a triathlon training trip to Portugal. HE went to his step dad’s funeral in the uk and then suddenly (maybe it was planned all along) decided to extend his stay to help his mom.
I put two and two together since I couldn’t reach him and he’s never not returned my call since we met. They are both triathletes that are dumb and posted the same workout at the same time.
I feel for her fiancée (they are getting married in 2 months) and I feel pretty darn used. He made me feel like he wanted to be with me and start building a life.
SO I want to not be the victim and I’m tired of men being utter a-holes. She’s a terrible person as well oh and half his age. She’s 26 and he’s 53. Cool.
His message to me back today was “yes I’m in Portugal. Let’s chat when I get back”
Da f&$k?!? No they do not get to have a romantic getaway while I’m over here crying my eyes out and feeling used and her fiancée is liking her Strava workouts and has no idea. Remember her bachelorette was 4 days ago.
What would you do?
I do not just want to go quietly - we share the same circles will be at the same freaking race this summer and share the goddam same tri coach. I won’t be able to get away from them and I don’t want to have to leave everything because of THEIR behaviour. I’m done being a doormat. A woman scorned and all that.
Have you lit the match before? Was it better or worse for you? What are your thoughts?
Yes I’m devastated and feel utterly used. He could have just broken up with me. It’s not hard.