u/DaftGamer96

Wife asked for a divorce after divulging affair that went on for 3 years from what she admitted. We don't really have much to separate (kinda sad to admit after 22 years of marriage) so she filed paperwork directly with the court (hopefully not going to have to deal with lawyers and such).

Today while at work, I don't know what it was but I actually started to not be happy with it but I did start to actually try and plan how the next few months and years will go and it's honestly scary but kinda happy at the same time that this whole thing is eventually going to be over. I still love her but if it's done, then it's done so no reason to try and drag things out.

The thing that is causing me a little anxiety now is not having support for when things go wrong (car breaks down or if a trip to the hospital becomes required). No family of my own within the surrounding states, and wouldn't want to impose on coworkers (don't really have friends or friend-adjacent people). Anyone get divorced with nobody nearby to give help if required, and if so, what resources did you use?

Sorry if the wrong flair, it just seemed the most appropriate. Anyways, I'm laying here in bed in a super quiet house, reading different posts here, looking for people who don't want a divorce but is getting one regardless in hopes that it will make me feel better because feeling alone sucks. However, reading how people treat others that they supposedly loved at one point in time just makes me wonder why do we even try this whole 'relationship' thing in the first place since it seems to always end in hurting.

Yes, I still love her and the vast majority of my memories of us being 'us' are good ones, but this ending part makes me question why I decided to gamble on something that everyone knows is a sucker bet.

She was my person. The one that I knew without any doubts would be in my corner until I was placed in the Earth, just as I would be in hers. Having found out that I was replaced with someone else(for apparently 3 years, feel really stupid for trusting her implicitly since after finding out, there were signs all over the place), really, what's the point? 22+ years of marriage just discarded. Apparently those didn't mean as much as I thought. How does someone even think of trusting anyone after this kind of thing? I know that there are good people, but I obviously can't tell who they are because she had me fooled.

Thinking about just getting a smaller place and adopting a dog because then I'll know that she loves me.

Sorry, just needed to get this out and see if anyone can relate or give some hopeful words or thoughts.

Sorry if this is crass, but this literally just hit me this evening. Honestly, I'm just laying here right now feeling like I'm the biggest loser around. Actually considering trying to locate a SW to see if that would help (because I'll be damned if I try to find someone just for sex, because that feels low down, but the idea of paying a woman for her time feels okay'ish for some reason).

I know that depression, and the meds that I'm taking due to it, are said to have this effect but I honestly don't even know if it's because of the meds or just because the foggy funk my head is stuck in.

To any out there, if you experienced this, how long does it last before you were physically capable of even taking care of yourself? For full context, I still feel like I love her, so I'm nowhere near ready to even consider dating (married for more than 22 years). Feeling like this is going to be a forevermore situation currently.

Single full time day shift man looking for a room to rent. No pets, but if roomy has pets, not a problem at all. Just want a place to come back to after work and relax. Don't care if roomy is male, female, or other.