Hi I’m an incoming freshmen this fall and I’m worried about the roommate situation. I already have my roommate, but since we can’t pick the other two who will live in the dorm with us I’m worried if I’ll get along with them. I’m not sure if they’ll like me or I’ll like them. Please let me know your experience with getting roomed with two random people! 😅 if it makes any of a difference, I’m in the honors college! Thank you
looking for advice on how to split the cost of this room in a 2 bed 2 bath
master room: 12 square foot bigger than other room, has attached bathroom with 2 vanity’s, walk in closet
other room: slightly smaller, bath room not attached to bedroom, big closet but not walk in.
the entire unit is priced at 2550
so split evenly it would be 1250ish
the roommate insists on
master bedroom : 1400ish
other bedroom : 1100 ish
i would get the master but i am wondering if 300 is too much for what it is? we would split utilities evenly
I don’t mind paying more for the master but is 300 too much?
Some background: my two roommates and I couldn't agree on how to split rent based on room size earlier in the year, so we compromised by splitting rent equally three ways (~$1,117/month each) and rotating who gets the single room each quarter. Total rent is $3,350/month.
My roommate (let's call him X) arranged a sublease for his room while he's away for a summer internship. He chose the tenant, set the terms, and picked an end date of August 15 — none of which he ran by me or my other roommate beforehand. He didn't even send us the sublease contract until June 14th, after everything was already signed. He subleased the single room for $1,650/month — significantly more than his $1,117 share — meaning he's profiting off the arrangement.
In June, me and my other roommate each paid a full third of the rent despite only occupying the double room. Our understanding was that by overpaying in June, we'd effectively be paying the double room rate for July and August, with the June overpayment covering the difference. X is now saying that since he won't be physically present those two weeks, it's not his responsibility to cover his share of rent — and that since we have access to the single room during that time, we're essentially getting a bonus and should pay for it. We never asked for the single room. It's vacant because he left and chose an end date that didn't cover the full lease period. Having access to an empty room we're not using isn't a perk.
To top it off, me and my other roommate physically moved all of his belongings into the single (since my other roommate was finishing out his quarter with the single) to facilitate the sublease after he left. We'll have to do it again when the sublease tenant moves out. Despite this, he keeps framing the situation as him "subsidizing our rent" and doing us a favor.
He's been asking his friends and they all agree with him. Curious what strangers on the internet think.
Are we wrong?
I’m on a few accommodation/room finding apps and 80 percent of the adverts have females preferred? Why has today’s world become so much harder for simply being a male ? I’m also going through a breakup with a child and guess who’s got the ball in there court ? Not me anyway.. Work my arse off and a well mannered/clean guy life is just relentless.. suicide statistics make sense now
How do I go about my living situation the correct way? I live with my good friend of many many years now. He moved down in November to come live with me along with his two cats from his girlfriend that he is watching for the time being. It is me and my partner in our room with my cat and then him and the cats in the house.
The only concern I really had was the cats getting along. Unbiased, my cat is very gentle and tame friendliest and easiest cat I’ve ever had in my life and is 1 year old. She has lived with other cats and was very friendly (and she was 6 months and the other was 3 when they were introduced). My roommate has two 3 year old cats that are a bonded pair. Immediately the tension is high when we started to introduce them, his cats hissing and swatting while mine approaches with normal curiosity.
Then it evolved into them lurking around corners and swatting at mine as well as beginning to pee in the living room as well as MY bedroom. I still let it slide because I don’t know what to say and he said he’s working on it. The breaking point for me was when I came home to my cat being attacked under my bed which is HER safe space. She sits there in all times og the day when she wants to relax and hide. Well his cats were on both ends of my bed and swatting and she was shaking under my bed. He pulled them out and apologized but then again later that afternoon they cornered her in our living room and the same my cat is shaking and afraid while they sway at her and hiss if she tries to move. On top of that, his cats got into my stuff in our storage room and peed all over my things. My retro game collection, my clothes, my blankets, items from my deceased grandfather.
At this point, I was done. I told him he has to keep the cats away from mine because now I’m fearful for her life if all of us aren’t in the house she will be killed if it escalates into a 2 on 1. So for months now he’s finally agreed to just keep them in his room. But now he brought up wanting to try reintroducing them again and I just felt the worst pit in my stomach. My cats finally been herself again, laying around the house and not checking every corner she walks by and loving as all hell. What do I do? I am leaning towards saying I don’t want the cats near mine and if it’s a problem for him he can move out.
Hi! Looking for a roommate in Akola near the homoeopathy college, railway station. Anyone interested, please DM me! Rent is 3K and first security deposit 6K. (Girl roommie)
My roommate and I are both women. We’ve been getting into it lately because she keeps inviting men she doesn’t know or just met to our apartment.
I don’t care if it’s every now and then, or if it’s a boyfriend I don’t care at all. But it really bothers me that all of these random men know our address and are in my safe space when we know absolutely nothing about them.
She thinks I’m being unfair, because my boyfriend comes over twice a week and she doesn’t like him. I told her I wouldn’t have him over if she’s uncomfortable with it, but he’s also not a stranger we’ve been together for over a year.
I feel like it’s not that unreasonable to not want a bunch of strange men to have my address, but I don’t know, I’ve never had this issue with other roommates.
So am I being unreasonable?
I'm in a bit of a sticky situation and the conflict is stressing me out a lot. Me and my roommate were friends before moving in together. She couldn't afford a place on her own and me and my boyfriend were desperate for a place closer to work. We currently all share a house. Me and my boyfriend pay 2/3 of the rent for the upper floor. We have a bit more space. We all share the kitchen on our floor, and laundry is in the basement, where my roommate has her floor. It's not two separate units. It's one house that we're all on the lease for. As far as I'm aware, that makes it a shared accommodation.
Before moving in together, we talked about use of the laundry. Our roommate OK'd us using the laundry at will. Otherwise, her rent would have been higher. However, it has become a source of conflict. She has said that she did not realize how invasive it was going to feel for us to come downstairs into her space to use the laundry. How the floor plan works is right outside the kitchen there are stairs, at the bottom of the stairs is the door to the laundry room. On one side is the living room, the other side of the stairs landing is the laundry room. If we do laundry, we go straight into the laundry room.
She asked us to let her know in advance if we're going to use the laundry and she'll say if we're ok to come downstairs. I said no problem, we can do that, and I apologized for not thinking of that sooner. Thing is, I feel really uncomfortable doing laundry now. She seems really annoyed whenever I ask her to come downstairs to do laundry, but I feel as if we agreed beforehand. I only do laundry MAX 2-3 times a week, and I only go immediately into the laundry room after getting permission. I feel as if I'm not getting my money's worth of the agreed-upon amenities.
Here's the meat of the conflict though.
We have a dog and were going away for a few days. We asked my roommate if we could pay her to feed and walk the dog for several days. She said ok, then a week before asked if we could find somebody else because she made plans. No problem, my sister said she could stay over. I cleared it with my roommate, which I feel was a courtesy.
She said it was ok as long as my sister didn't go into her space, and I agreed. I told my sister not to go downstairs. However, when we're gone I get a text from my roommate saying my sister did laundry. She said it was an "egregious breach of trust." I apologized and said I told my sister not to go downstairs, and that I've talked to my sister about it. But she kept texting me about how she doesn't know now if my sister went through her stuff. I said she would never have done that, and that she only did her laundry and she wasn't thinking, and I apologized again.
She texted me back again, and now we're just straight up arguing. I don't really know what she wants from me here, and I got frustrated and dug my heels in.
I feel as if I should be allowed to have guests and have them do laundry just once. I literally never have guests over, but she's had friends over frequently and they've been in the kitchen and I've never complained. They've even gone through our living room and private room to get to the patio!
I know the issue here is that I said my sister wasn't going to go into her space, and I TOLD my sister not to, and I apologized. This has literally never happened before. I don't know what else to do other than apologize.
But am I wrong and invasive for thinking that the laundry we agreed to share beforehand, and that we pay for, isn't just her space? I know it requires going downstairs, but the kitchen is upstairs and looks into our living room, and she's in the kitchen more often than we're going to the laundry room.
I'm just stressed and the whole situation is spiraling, and I really don't want to be the pushy invasive roommate. This is her first time renting and I've rented with roommates in shared accommodations before, so I'm wondering if maybe we just have different expectations of shared amenities.
Me and my boyfriend have offered to sit down and go over rent price. If she wants solo use of the laundry she can have it, but the rent will change to reflect that. Now I'm wondering if that's me escalating, but I don't know what to do, and I'm worried I'm in the wrong here.
Could anyone give me any advice? Perspective? Am I being inconsiderate? Sorry it is so long.
2 bed/2 bath apartment. $500/month rent with utilities. Fully furnished (except vacant bedroom). Three current occupants under 30, looking for a fourth to split one of the bedrooms. DM if interested.
I live with roommates and we split a few recurring bills.
The problem is that most of them are on autopay, so the charge just quietly hits my account every month. I always tell myself I'll request everyone else's share later, then life gets busy and I forget.
A few months go by and suddenly I'm trying to remember whether someone already paid me for the internet bill, a streaming subscription, or some other shared expense.
I'm not even talking about bad roommates. It's usually just everyone forgetting because the payment happens automatically and nobody thinks about it again until the next charge.
Does anyone have a good system for tracking this stuff? Do you use Splitwise, spreadsheets, recurring Venmo requests, or something else?
Today I chose my dorm room and I just chose someone random that aligned w what i said, should I reach out to him? or should I just wait til school starts?
I (along with my other flatmate) have been living with our roommate for two years. We have always been accommodating, even changing our own dietary habits such as avoiding onions and garlic to make her comfortable. But now that she’s moving out, the dynamic has turned toxic.
The situation:
Financial Exploitation: On her way out, she is demanding a significant "setup fee" from the incoming tenant. The flat is fully furnished by the owner, and all our shared household expenses have been meticulously tracked and split 3-ways via apps for two years. When we asked for a breakdown of what that money covers, she refused to provide one, calling our request "drama" and claiming it is "none of our business".
Replacement & Landlord Issues: She has been trying to manage the replacement process without being transparent with us or the owner. While the owner has expressed that her main priority is a seamless transition, our roommate has complicated the process by creating unnecessary friction.
Property Damage: She has caused damage to common property, such as the gate, and instead of taking responsibility, she has denied her actions.
Boundary Violations & Hypocrisy: She frequently brings her boyfriend over daily despite us repeatedly stating we are not comfortable with it. She dismissed our discomfort by claiming he "stays in her room only," yet he has been caught eating from our shared groceries. This is the same person who refused to let us host a small party because she claimed she was "not comfortable" with guests.
Weaponized Deflection: Whenever we try to have a mature conversation about house security or these boundaries, she pivots to irrelevant topics, like a flatmate’s decision to use a private appliance for their own food. She equates our legitimate security concerns with her own personal dietary preferences to avoid accountability.
The Victim Card: She has started claiming she is being "tortured" and having a "mental breakdown" whenever we hold her to the standards we all agreed upon. It feels like she’s using her emotions to bypass the fact that she has been acting entitled and disrespectful of our shared space.
The Hypocrisy of Cleanliness: She would frequently lecture us if we left a single dish in the sink, yet on weekends, she would cook with her boyfriend in our shared kitchen and leave a massive pile of dirty dishes for us to deal with. This is the same person who made it her mission to point out whenever anyone else forgot to wash a dish immediately.
We feel like we have been the "responsible anchors" for two years, and now that we are finally standing our ground, she is acting like we are the villains. Am I crazy for thinking this is an attempt to exploit us before she leaves, or is this just how some people handle conflict? How do I get through these final days without losing my sanity?
it’s fair to ask that he pay for a third of the utilities at least right ? both me and my roommate work and he stays home and leaves the air con all day…. like i’m really a chill person and don’t even want to ask for half of the wifi or anything because that doesn’t go up but our bill has gone up to 160 when it’s usually not over 100. ofc summer heat changes this but him staying home when we’re gone would increase it significantly right ? plus little things he uses
EDIT: i’m the one responsible for the lease. so she venmos me every month.
We both need to move out soon and we have been together for 1.5 years. we are 23 and 25.
Hi, I am an incoming high school senior and I am planning on applying for and attending CUNY John Jay. The problem is, I live in TX, and I do not want to, nor do I think I'm able to, live alone in NY. Are there any safe ways/websites to find roommates for this college that are my age? This is my dream college and I don't want to throw it down the drain just because I cant find someone to live with and I do not want to do online school!! Please help?
I am going to be living in an apartment for college this upcoming school year, and I'm going to be having roommates for the first time (2, to be exact). They're both my friends. Thing is, I have mild/moderate contamination OCD, which obviously is a hurdle. My main issue is the kitchen. I don't care what they do around the apartment (I mean, I do, but I can cope with it totally fine). I'm just so afraid about using the kitchen when I know it's going to be contaminated by people coming inside with their contaminated outside clothes, and what if my roommates don't wash their hands immediately when they come inside and then start doing things in the kitchen?? It makes me feel panicky since then I'm going to be using those appliances and those food items to make my own food, which in turn could make me sick (you know, cause they're contaminated from people not washing and changing when they come in). I'm aware I probably sound like an annoying bitch to y'all (and you're totally valid for thinking that). *I* feel annoying and overbearing, but not setting any boundaries about the kitchen and eating contaminated food makes me feel like crying. And wiping down all the appliances every time I want to use them is way too much. what do I do? How would you feel living with me? Would you care if I set a couple simple rules about the kitchen only, or would you be like 'bitch please'? please advise.
Note: I am aware my OCD is my problem and I need to deal with it myself and not make it everyone else's problem. I am in no way going to dictate what my friends do around the apartment because that's crazy. It's just the kitchen that I need to stay at least somewhat sanitary.
I genuinely don't know what to do anymore.
I've lived with this guy for about 8 months and every week something from my groceries disappears. At first I thought I was forgetting what I'd eaten, but it's gotten ridiculous. I'll buy a full carton of eggs and two days later there are three left. Entire packs of snacks disappear overnight.
The weirdest part is that whenever I ask him about it, he acts completely confused and says things like, "Are you sure you bought that?" or "Maybe one of your friends ate it?"
Last night I literally labeled a takeout container with my name on it. Came home from work and it was gone. He admitted he ate it but said he "didn't think it mattered."
Am I overreacting for being annoyed about this? I've tried talking to him multiple times and nothing changes.
Hi everyone. I'm urgently looking for a room to rent in the San Antonio area by July 20th–24th. My budget is up to $950 per month.
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I'm 18 years old, very quiet, respectful, clean, and tend to keep to myself. I work hard, can provide proof of income, references, and any other information you may need. I don't have a credit score yet due to my age, but I am responsible and reliable.
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I'm currently in a difficult situation and need to find a place to move into next month after being kicked out of my family home. I'm trying to get on my feet and establish a stable, permanent living situation as soon as possible.
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I'm pet-friendly, LGBT-friendly, and smoking-friendly. I'm also very tidy and respectful of shared spaces, and I always clean up after myself. I value open communication, respect, and maintaining a peaceful living environment.
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If you have a room available or know of one, please send me a DM. I'm happy to exchange phone numbers and speak directly. I can provide references and proof of income upon request.
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Even if you don't have a room available, shares and recommendations would mean a lot right now.
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Thank you so much for reading and considering helping me.
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I 21F live in a by the bed leasing place with my roommates 19F and 20F. So we all rent our rooms and share the common area. I rarely sit in the common area unless it’s early in the morning and I’m just enjoying some coffee on the couch well I check emails.
My roommate is the opposite she loves lounging on the couch everyday for most of the time watching tv doing work or sleeping. It’s annoying sometimes but at the end of the day I respect that’s where she likes to spend her time.
What bothers me is when I walk downstairs she acts like I’m walking into her room looking at me with a annoyed glare or I’ll come in the kitchen to fill my water and she acts like I’m intruding in her space. I’ve been eating out more to avoid this but it’s really annoying like shes there from noon to whenever she goes to bed I live here too. She’s nice other than this I mean she makes backhanded comments sometimes but.
I’m hopefully moving next month but I just wanted to get this off my chest idk if anyone else has had a roommate like this.
Recently divorced stay at home mom. 2 kids. Alimony is 1 year paid mortgage plus $2.2K child support monthly. My monthly mortgage payment is $2,150 for a 3,660 sq ft home. 5 bedrooms, 4 bathrooms. Lots of space, the basement is unused. Kitchen would be shared. Ex- husband is still on the deed. Looking to buy his equity out as soon as possible. Would it be worth it to get a roommate? I’ve never been a landlord before.