I (38F) have been married to my husband (36M) for 10 years. I don’t drink at all. He does sometimes.
We went out with friends recently and he was drinking. At one point, he told our friends he married me because I don’t drink and could always be his DD. I brushed it off as a dumb joke.
Later, when we were leaving (and I was, of course, driving), he said it again this time directly to me, “Don’t take this the wrong way, but the only reason I married you is because you don’t drink and you can always be my DD.”
That didn’t feel like a joke.
I asked him if that was seriously the only reason. He added, “Well, your personality too and how you manage life,” which honestly sounded like a half-assed save.
When I asked him what that even meant, he got annoyed and told me to stop pressuring him. So I dropped it because he was drunk and I wasn’t about to argue in the car.
Now I’m stuck thinking about it. After 10 years of marriage, it’s a pretty crappy feeling to wonder if your husband married you for something that shallow.
TL;DR: Drunk husband said he married me so I could be his designated driver. Tried to backtrack, then got defensive when I asked questions. Now I’m questioning everything.