First time posting here. Skipping the biodata format, going to write it like I'd actually talk.
Why CF?
CF clicked early for me, partly because of how I was raised and what I’ve watched the “default path” cost (time, health, etc.) people around me and the world already has a lot of population and doesn’t require me to increase it, also partly because I have very specific things I want to build with my life and a kid was never going to fit into that picture. I got a Tyrannical Cockatiel though, with which I already have my hands full.
Basics:
26M, Sikh by background but atheist
Originally from the Chandigarh area, moved to Hyderabad for work
SWE II at an IB, ~4 YOE, ~40LPA
Engineering grad (Computer Sci with a Math minor)
5'9, weight is more than I'd like to admit, actively grinding it down to nominal levels over the next 6 months.
Don't drink, don't smoke, hence will prefer the same.
Non-veg at times.
No bar on caste, religion, region on your end either.
About me:
I create solutions to problems for a living. Somehow also for fun. Hella ambitious, but I also have ADHD, which means I tend to hyperfocus deeply on whatever has my attention at the moment.
Off hours I'm usually doing one of three things:
\-> Deep in a book (200+ fiction novels and counting, mostly sci-fi and fantasy),
\-> Poking at a side project (current one is a prediction market bot\[Deterministic\] that has personally taught me what humility feels like), or
\-> Whatever my brain has decided is the hyperfocus of the month. Occasionally that's gaming, but only when the headspace and environment lines up.
The fav of my life is a cockatiel birb. He tries to be angy at times, screams at the doorbell, and I would defend him in court.
Other bits:
Big science nerd, will absolutely drag you into a 2-hour Kurzgesagt rabbit hole
Career and ambition are on track, with ever-expanding heights somewhere on the longer horizon.
Want to actually see the world, not the airport-and-hotel version of it
Cafe hopping, weekend road trips, the occasional dumb 2 a.m. drive.
Equally happy with a fancy weekend somewhere or chai and a book on a Sunday
First generation building, by the way. No old wealth, no family business, no preset path. Everything ahead is what I put together.
Looking for:
Honestly, friendship first. I want to talk, hang out, get to a point where we can sit through long silences without it feeling weird. If that part works, the rest can grow from there. Eventually, the goal is for a companion/partner.
What I actually care about: someone with their own drive and their own thing they're chasing, curious about the world, be kind, and equally up for going out and exploring it with another person. Career or ambition shape doesn't
matter, having one does.
As the 12th doc said it: Always try to be nice but never fail to be kind.
Drop a DM if any of this sounds like your kind of person. Let's just talk first and see where it goes.