u/Cute-Promise-8079

I'm cross posting this from the ENFP subreddit obviously. But, I think this might be a better place to ask as is. You guys have been very helpful in the past!

I direly need someone to help me here. I know I'm a Ne dominant and a Si inferior, this is very apparent, I'm just so stumped and confused vs Fi-Te vs Ti-Fe?

I somehow feel like I'm both, though that is very obviously not possible. I'll talk about myself a little bit and share some things that might define one or the other. I cannot decide between these two types and keep flip-flopping.

- I'm not really that feely. I mean that as in I can cry no doubt, it's kind of just that I have a pretty strong aversion to sitting with negative emotions and I would rather journal them out and kind of theorize why I feel certain was. Even recently having to, I've disliked it. I've literally no problem opening up about my past, my past emotions, past feelings, but present emotions are really hard and I despise that feeling of being so vulnerable. However, I pride myself on being someone people can be vulnerable TO. I repress my feelings and distract myself until I suddenly start to cry one day from sheer overwhelm and feel confused as to why...and it all clicks into place.

- My empathy feels purely cognitive. I can put myself in other people's shoes, not really feel what they feel inside myself but I can understand their POV, the why behind how they feel, even predict how they feel. I don't have that foreign to me empathy of "If you cry, I cry!". I've never been that way, never could be. I like to help people period and do guide them with pretty straightforward solutions and advice, sometimes I try and tailor it because I know one size doesn't fit all. I'm very open minded and don't judge, people seem to feel like they can tell me anything. If the general "vibe" needs a tonal shift, I'm pretty socially aware enough to comply with it because it's just the appropriate thing to do, even if my feelings don't match how I act.

- I'd consider myself more logical. When it comes down to decision making, I sort of have to talk some days to think about my options but especially have a need to talk things through with people. However, I don't ever ask people for direct advice because being honest...I will not take it and end up doing what I want to do anyways, I just need to get the thoughts and ideas out somewhere and love input no less. It's kind of like coming to a cognitive conclusion THEN consulting with my feelings to come to really decide and do what I think will be best for me. I always overanalyze myself AND my choices for that matter.

- I am pretty confrontational once I start to reach my breaking point and can be assertive with setting boundaries, putting things to a stop and calling out certain behaviors. It's kind of like entertaining it till suddenly I can't do it anymore. I do tend to let a lot of things slide because they're not affecting me on the surface, but I have been prone to letting resentment greatly build deep inside me. Even with these boundaries I set, they do get overstepped easily...I don't tend to do much about that and kind of just feel whatever. I don't care THAT much. Yes, I do eventually snap and "door slam", but I've got so much optimism that I give countless chances and always see the good in people so I'm very open to many tries at making stuff work and extremely forgiving. I CANNOT hold grudges.

- I'm pretty joyful and warm a lot of the time, excitable, witty, random, out of pocket, can be jarringly blunt and "shocking" with my words which catches people off guard but seems to amuse them to a great degree so I just pride myself as being a seriously funny person. I do consider myself pretty loyal to my friends as a whole but as one might expect I do get shiny new object syndrome with people, the temporary new connection novelty, but I always prefer returning to the very few people who truly do love, accept and get me.

- The final thing I'll say about all of this is that I kind of struggle with knowing who I am deep down. I mean who I am as in what I like, what I value (besides obvious moral and political things), my favorite anything, what labels apply to me as a whole, personality, traits, all that good stuff. I feel like my thoughts and opinions are changing 24/7 and I can not come to a true and proper conclusion nor stand by one.

Please do forgive me for how long this entire ramble was, I really just need to come to a conclusion between these two types. If there's any further defining questions that could be asked, by all means ask! I'm a very open book as I've been the last two times I've come here.

I need someone to help me here. I know I'm a Ne dominant and a Si inferior, this is very apparent, I'm just so stumped and confused vs Fi-Te vs Ti-Fe?

I somehow feel like I'm both, though that is very obviously not possible. I'll talk about myself a little bit and share some things that might define one or the other. I cannot decide between these two types and keep flip-flopping.

- I'm not really that feely. I mean that as in I can cry no doubt, it's kind of just that I have a pretty strong aversion to sitting with negative emotions and I would rather journal them out and kind of theorize why I feel certain was. Even recently having to, I've disliked it. I've literally no problem opening up about my past, my past emotions, past feelings, but present emotions are really hard and I despise that feeling of being so vulnerable. However, I pride myself on being someone people can be vulnerable TO. I repress my feelings and distract myself until I suddenly start to cry one day from sheer overwhelm and feel confused as to why...and it all clicks into place.

- My empathy feels purely cognitive. I can put myself in other people's shoes, not really feel what they feel inside myself but I can understand their POV, the why behind how they feel, even predict how they feel. I don't have that foreign to me empathy of "If you cry, I cry!". I've never been that way, never could be. I like to help people period and do guide them with pretty straightforward solutions and advice, sometimes I try and tailor it because I know one size doesn't fit all. I'm very open minded and don't judge, people seem to feel like they can tell me anything. If the general "vibe" needs a tonal shift, I'm pretty socially aware enough to comply with it because it's just the appropriate thing to do, even if my feelings don't match how I act.

- I'd consider myself more logical. When it comes down to decision making, I sort of have to talk some days to think about my options but especially have a need to talk things through with people. However, I don't ever ask people for direct advice because being honest...I will not take it and end up doing what I want to do anyways, I just need to get the thoughts and ideas out somewhere and love input no less. It's kind of like coming to a cognitive conclusion THEN consulting with my feelings to come to really decide and do what I think will be best for me. I always overanalyze myself AND my choices for that matter.

- I am pretty confrontational once I start to reach my breaking point and can be assertive with setting boundaries, putting things to a stop and calling out certain behaviors. It's kind of like entertaining it till suddenly I can't do it anymore. I do tend to let a lot of things slide because they're not affecting me on the surface, but I have been prone to letting resentment greatly build deep inside me. Even with these boundaries I set, they do get overstepped easily...I don't tend to do much about that and kind of just feel whatever. I don't care THAT much. Yes, I do eventually snap and "door slam", but I've got so much optimism that I give countless chances and always see the good in people so I'm very open to many tries at making stuff work and extremely forgiving. I CANNOT hold grudges.

- I'm pretty joyful and warm a lot of the time, excitable, witty, random, out of pocket, can be jarringly blunt and "shocking" with my words which catches people off guard but seems to amuse them to a great degree so I just pride myself as being a seriously funny person. I do consider myself pretty loyal to my friends as a whole but as one might expect I do get shiny new object syndrome with people, the temporary new connection novelty, but I always prefer returning to the very few people who truly do love, accept and get me.

- The final thing I'll say about all of this is that I kind of struggle with knowing who I am deep down. I mean who I am as in what I like, what I value (besides obvious moral and political things), my favorite anything, what labels apply to me as a whole, personality, traits, all that good stuff. I feel like my thoughts and opinions are changing 24/7 and I can not come to a true and proper conclusion nor stand by one.

Please do forgive me for how long this entire ramble was, I really just need to come to a conclusion between these two types. If there's any further defining questions that could be asked, by all means ask! I'm a very open book as you can see.