u/Curtaindrop

We have a toddler (2.5F) and I am 30 weeks pregnant with our second. I am EXHAUSTED. I work full time and so did my husband before he got laid off a week after he broke his fucking hand cause he couldn’t keep his shit together.

Three days ago he had to get surgery on it. I don’t even know how you break your hand that bad hitting a wood dresser in a tantrum during an early morning diaper change. The toddler is being a toddler, running away while laughing is what they do. I swear this man thinks he does more than anyone else in the house. And now that I’m pregnant and need extra help, he thinks he’s the only one who gets zero time for himself. We have a 2.5 year old! We get alone time once she’s in bed or we have a sitter! I send him out a few nights a week so I can put her down but it’s getting harder with my belly in the way. So now, because of his hand, he can’t give her a bath, he can’t play with her like he was before, and he can’t take her anywhere without me because he can’t buckle the car seat. I basically feel like a single parent with a disabled teenager and a toddler.

I am so over the grown man tantrums because he is incapable of coping with the most basic life shit or frankly going to bed at a normal hour. And now here we are having to accommodate his self inflicted disability cause he overreacted to basic toddler behavior. I get that our toddler is an obsessive daddy’s girl, I get how smothering that is. I know having a job you hate sucks, I know how soul sucking that is. But sometimes that’s just how it is when you are grown man. So now, instead of him pivoting to a new job cause he took the time to apply for some, he got laid off while his wife is due in two months. And there goes paternity leave. Instead of him taking 5 deep breaths and moving on when he got frustrated with a toddler, he broke is fucking hand and had to get surgery.

Like wtf is that logic?! And just now, he came in and asked if I was ok and I just said the last two weeks have really sucked and it’s finally getting to me. Of course then I am the bad guy because I made him sad by being upset that he LOST HIS JOB AND BROKE HIS HAND while I am pregnant and we have a toddler. How is it possible that I am not allowed to be upset about those things, especially when one of them was entirely his fault?

PLEASE READ BELOW BEFORE PASSING JUDGEMENT.

My (36F) sister (39f) are not on speaking terms due to a whole host of reasons, ironically some due to money issues where she has either taken advantage of me or accused me of taking money from my mom, who I am estranged from, when I hadn’t.

We haven’t spoken in about 2 months until today when I got a notification from Target about a purchase. I went in, saw the location was by her house, and that she used my 15% off registry discount I was saving for a large purchase (I am 29 weeks pregnant).

Based on previous experiences with her related to anything focused on money, I have sound softening my language makes her thinks the door is open for debate when it isn’t. According to her, as you can see, me being direct is being accusatory or rude. She routinely uses my phone number at stores or my email when signing up for crap when I have specifically asked her not to.

Am I overreacting being upset that she stole my registry discount to buy some frivolous thing?

Edit: I wanted to avoid backstory cause I truly didn’t think it was relevant but I was wrong. I was being direct in my communication because softening my language usually ended up in a debate which I want to avoid. I had asked her numerous times not to use my phone number or email for stores but that hasn’t stopped her. She’s used my Sephora points, gas points, etc which I save up for larger purchases. It’s not just about the money, it’s about the principle. Especially because I have a family and shit is expensive right now.

She has also directly used my accounts like my old t-mobile account to buy phones ($2k) when I had her on my plan paying her phone bill for over a decade. She did this after I told her I was shutting down the plan and she had to get her own.

It’s just an endless pattern that I’m sick of, especially since her and I are not on speaking terms. Could I have been nicer? Yeah probably but I was planning to stack that 15% with a 25% so I have that would bring down a large purchase like a $400 car seat a substantial amount.

Edit 2 - she has her own Target account. There is no reason to use anyone else’s when she has her own.

I’m 30 weeks pregnant and my DH broke his hand hitting a dresser in frustration.