u/CursedOfMedusa

Im 23 weeks along and my baby's heart rate has been fluctuating like crazy his heart rate is normally between 190 and 180 constantly but it keeps randomly dropping between 100 and 90 bpm I'm absolutely terrified and my doctor keeps saying they'll keep monitoring him and I. They've brought up it being fetal tachycardia.

I feel like im doing something wrong when I first found out I was pregnant in December I took the medication for a medication abortion and a month later I found out it didnt work. I dont know whats going on I just want my baby to be okay I try resting as much as I can between going to work Im not the type of person who can just sit there and do nothing for weeks on end I have to always be doing something. My doctor wants me on bedrest but I need to work to keep my bills paid.

Has anyone else experienced this type of thing when they where pregnant? If so what was it. Im really worried about my baby. I wanted to do a baby shower but I dont know when it would be the right time to do it. I've noticed both mine and baby's heart rate will start to fluctuate like crazy when I'm dealing with baby daddy and his family (him and i arnt together) I have been stressed out pretty much every day since I first found out I was pregnant in December but had the medicated abortion. Lately my stress has been because his mom wants to have a dna test done right now to get baby daddy in the mindset that hes going to be a dad im 19f and baby daddy Is 20m. All baby daddy has done since ive gotten pregnant is Stress me out and I just want to have the test done when babies born and I feel like its wrong that its what I want to happen. My main reason is I just want to make sure my baby's going to be born an have a nice long life.

I keep researching what could be causing his heart rate to fluctuate the way its been and it keeps leading me down a rabbit hole to where im more scared for him then I was before. Can the abortion pills have side effects to where its messing with my babies heart? I know my stress isnt good for baby or myself im not sure if it could have this bad of an effect on him or not. Im not worried about myself im just worried about my son. Ive always had issues with my heart rate being to high or to low and my blood pressure being to high or to low. I was never diagnosed with anything though.

Im 19 F my ex is 20m we were together for a month alot happened in that month we were really good together while together spent alot of time together. Did we go to fast? Most definitely. But it was are first time feeling absolutely safe with another person it felt normal and natural. We ended up going to a concert together and spent 5 days together out of town and when we got back it was really cold where we lived and he rode a motorcycle and we didnt see eachother much. Hes the type that doesnt like to go anywhere without a vehicle and I'm the same way. Him an I would talk we just weren't hanging out as much. Which I understood it was cold I just wanted to see him even if it was only for a few minutes.

Welp 2 weeks after we got back from are trip. I said we needed to talk he agreed he said he didnt know what was wrong with him. We met up first thing he said was he wasnt cheating on me and wanted to make that clear. He said he didnt know what happened he said he still liked me he just thinks we went to fast and I agreed. He said he knows it seems like he used me but he swears he didnt and said I could hit him if I want to and he just kept repeating he was sorry and he didn't cheat and he just doesnt know what happend. And I did end up smacking him upside the head and flicking him in between his eye brows he told me he deserved all of it and i tapped his leg with a metal rod and he said he deserved it to I didnt do it hard just playfully. We had one last kiss and planned to revist it in a few months to see if we felt the same way an if we did we planned to get back together.

Later that week I went to California and came back the same day and he was in the city I went to before going back to are town he told me his hotel room number and said I could come and I did and all we did was sleep next to eachother I slept the entire day after I showed up and the day after it when we where sleeping he wrapped his arms around me he said he loved me and to not leave him I said I wouldn't. When he woke up he didnt remember it and I wasnt going to remind him.

A week after that I found out I was pregnant and told him and he freaked out told me to get rid of it and I was an still am young an didnt think I could do it an scheduled an appointment to get the medicated abortion pill and I took it and shortly after he got really distant and we stopped talking. A few weeks later His co worker blocked me on his snap and I saw him an drove past him at 80mph ( stupid I know i was mad and was dealing with some bs with one of my friends). Later that night we called an talked for a few hours and he said he was scared of me and we where laughing and talking for hours before going to bed.

A few weeks after that I went for a follow up appointment with my obgyn and found out I was still pregnant and the abortion had failed. (crazy I know) and I spent a week trying to figure out what to do an I called him i was blocked and I used *67 to call him because he needed to know what was going on. He answered and we met up and talked for a few hours he said he couldn't do much but he would be there and we would figure it out and whatever I wanted to do he would support my decision. I decided to keep the kid. Him an I said we would talk out of town since we both where going out of town to the same place around the same time. A few days after his friends girlfriend messaged me saying hes saying he wants nothing to do with his kid and hes not gonna be on the birth certificate an the day after that his motorcycle got backed into.

The morning we where going he texted me saying " Yea you just pissed me off even more. We will talk tomorrow and your just gonna have to accept whatever is said. We might come to a agreement or to nothing at all. Im going through a shit ton right now and im having a hard time believing a fucking word you say. If you wanna run me off the road now go ahead just know that you ruin your life. I have a lot more people than you think that know everything you have said. If you decide to keep the kid you ruin your own life. Bringing a kid into this world won't bring me back. You need to realize that its only gonna make it worse. We're not together anymore and won't ever be. You have printed out photos of me that you didn't even have when we broke up thats mad odd. We knew each other 29 fucking days *my name* and it didn't work so what thats how it goes sometimes. Dont waste away your young years on another kid that you know I cant help with. You had a random ass mf there the other day. Your telling literally everyone about it what the fuck is up with that. Anyways guess ill see you tomorrow. Don't try to justify shit you know your wrong for."

I responded saying " I understand that *his name* I truly do more than you realize. Im not gonna run you off the road. The picture i printed out when we got back from Phoenix not that you'd know cause everything changed when we got back. It didnt work out I truly dont give a fuck. I don't want you back when we first broke up I did but I havent wanted you back in awhile and I dont think having a kid will change that at all. I told people that Im pregnant so what they ask about the father I tell them and I leave it at that. What did i do to piss you off even more though? You say shit and end up not meaning it at a later date. I know more than you think I do not being werid and creepy or anything I just do. You're going through shit * his name* I know you are your stressed as shit. But yeah we'll talk tomorrow. "

I said alot more stuff I wrote a long paragraph and he said "I think its best we both take some time to calm down and give it a few months."

He blocked me I texted him off text now cause I was pissed I bought a hotel room to talk to him about everything just for us to not talk. We ended up planning to talk and we did and it went good and he ended up bringing me juice later that day.

Few weeks later I found out the gender of my baby and its a boy and I told him he said he doesnt think I cheated on him but he wants a DNA test I said okay and we can look into an I decided I wanted one when my baby is born its my choice and I decided thats what I want to do and still stand by it. And about 2 weeks after that I bought a motorcycle (i know it's stupid because im pregnant)

We talked and he ended up showing up where I was and we went up to are town together my friend rode my bike halfway and his friend rode it the rest of the way. Few days after I was riding around saw 2 bikes and wanted to see who it was an flipped around didnt know where they went an went on my merry way. Ended up seeing him and we where going in the same direction and I flew past him he then texted people saying I was following him and we ended up getting in an argument over the situation and I left the town to stop him thinking im following him every time we see eachother.

I moved and April 5th my mom texted his mom telling her Im pregnant and he texted me about it and we called an talked. Few weeks after My mom an I where going to go talk to his mom my mom got arrested on are way there so I just ended up talking to his mom alone. His mom wants a DNA test now so he can get in the head space hes going to be a dad and im not going to be catering to his emotions he told me prior even with a dna test he doesnt think he'll even be apart of his life and im standing by the fact I want one when my sons born.

Ive been finding out hes been telling everyone stuff about us mind you I live 3 hours away from him and people where I live freaked out when I showed a picture of him an asked if I was the ex I asked what they meant and they mean he wont shut the fuck up about his ex and constantly talks about her ( me ) and about how crazy I am. They think we just need to shut the fuck up and tell eachother how we feel because hes not over me, im not over him and its obvious with how we talk about eachother.

So all an all should we just try and talk? He let's everyone else's opinions dictate how he feels and told me he had to force himself to stop loving me. Im 23 weeks pregnant and no matter what I do I feel so madly in love with him. All the people I know thats met him to think we should just get back together an think he needs to stop letting other people's opinions dictate how he feels alot of people think he should be there for his son an I. I want to be on good terms with him i just dont know how when once we start talk an are good with eachother it changes a few days to weeks later when he listens to other people. My friends will see him and then me not far behind him or me and then him not far behind me it happens alot. I dont know how to stop loving him and It makes no sense to me why hes acting one way to me and another way to everyone else.

If anyone has any questions ill answer them I just want some outside in put.

Im 19 F my ex is 20m we were together for a month alot happened in that month we were really good together while together spent alot of time together. Did we go to fast? Most definitely. But it was are first time feeling absolutely safe with another person it felt normal and natural. We ended up going to a concert together and spent 5 days together out of town and when we got back it was really cold where we lived and he rode a motorcycle and we didnt see eachother much. Hes the type that doesnt like to go anywhere without a vehicle and I'm the same way. Him an I would talk we just weren't hanging out as much. Which I understood it was cold I just wanted to see him even if it was only for a few minutes.

Welp 2 weeks after we got back from are trip. I said we needed to talk he agreed he said he didnt know what was wrong with him. We met up first thing he said was he wasnt cheating on me and wanted to make that clear. He said he didnt know what happened he said he still liked me he just thinks we went to fast and I agreed. He said he knows it seems like he used me but he swears he didnt and said I could hit him if I want to and he just kept repeating he was sorry and he didn't cheat and he just doesnt know what happend. And I did end up smacking him upside the head and flicking him in between his eye brows he told me he deserved all of it and i tapped his leg with a metal rod and he said he deserved it to I didnt do it hard just playfully. We had one last kiss and planned to revist it in a few months to see if we felt the same way an if we did we planned to get back together.

Later that week I went to California and came back the same day and he was in the city I went to before going back to are town he told me his hotel room number and said I could come and I did and all we did was sleep next to eachother I slept the entire day after I showed up and the day after it when we where sleeping he wrapped his arms around me he said he loved me and to not leave him I said I wouldn't. When he woke up he didnt remember it and I wasnt going to remind him.

A week after that I found out I was pregnant and told him and he freaked out told me to get rid of it and I was an still am young an didnt think I could do it an scheduled an appointment to get the medicated abortion pill and I took it and shortly after he got really distant and we stopped talking. A few weeks later His co worker blocked me on his snap and I saw him an drove past him at 80mph ( stupid I know i was mad and was dealing with some bs with one of my friends). Later that night we called an talked for a few hours and he said he was scared of me and we where laughing and talking for hours before going to bed.

A few weeks after that I went for a follow up appointment with my obgyn and found out I was still pregnant and the abortion had failed. (crazy I know) and I spent a week trying to figure out what to do an I called him i was blocked and I used *67 to call him because he needed to know what was going on. He answered and we met up and talked for a few hours he said he couldn't do much but he would be there and we would figure it out and whatever I wanted to do he would support my decision. I decided to keep the kid. Him an I said we would talk out of town since we both where going out of town to the same place around the same time. A few days after his friends girlfriend messaged me saying hes saying he wants nothing to do with his kid and hes not gonna be on the birth certificate an the day after that his motorcycle got backed into.

The morning we where going he texted me saying " Yea you just pissed me off even more. We will talk tomorrow and your just gonna have to accept whatever is said. We might come to a agreement or to nothing at all. Im going through a shit ton right now and im having a hard time believing a fucking word you say. If you wanna run me off the road now go ahead just know that you ruin your life. I have a lot more people than you think that know everything you have said. If you decide to keep the kid you ruin your own life. Bringing a kid into this world won't bring me back. You need to realize that its only gonna make it worse. We're not together anymore and won't ever be. You have printed out photos of me that you didn't even have when we broke up thats mad odd. We knew each other 29 fucking days *my name* and it didn't work so what thats how it goes sometimes. Dont waste away your young years on another kid that you know I cant help with. You had a random ass mf there the other day. Your telling literally everyone about it what the fuck is up with that. Anyways guess ill see you tomorrow. Don't try to justify shit you know your wrong for."

I responded saying " I understand that *his name* I truly do more than you realize. Im not gonna run you off the road. The picture i printed out when we got back from Phoenix not that you'd know cause everything changed when we got back. It didnt work out I truly dont give a fuck. I don't want you back when we first broke up I did but I havent wanted you back in awhile and I dont think having a kid will change that at all. I told people that Im pregnant so what they ask about the father I tell them and I leave it at that. What did i do to piss you off even more though? You say shit and end up not meaning it at a later date. I know more than you think I do not being werid and creepy or anything I just do. You're going through shit * his name* I know you are your stressed as shit. But yeah we'll talk tomorrow. "

I said alot more stuff I wrote a long paragraph and he said "I think its best we both take some time to calm down and give it a few months."

He blocked me I texted him off text now cause I was pissed I bought a hotel room to talk to him about everything just for us to not talk. We ended up planning to talk and we did and it went good and he ended up bringing me juice later that day.

Few weeks later I found out the gender of my baby and its a boy and I told him he said he doesnt think I cheated on him but he wants a DNA test I said okay and we can look into an I decided I wanted one when my baby is born its my choice and I decided thats what I want to do and still stand by it. And about 2 weeks after that I bought a motorcycle (i know it's stupid because im pregnant)

We talked and he ended up showing up where I was and we went up to are town together my friend rode my bike halfway and his friend rode it the rest of the way. Few days after I was riding around saw 2 bikes and wanted to see who it was an flipped around didnt know where they went an went on my merry way. Ended up seeing him and we where going in the same direction and I flew past him he then texted people saying I was following him and we ended up getting in an argument over the situation and I left the town to stop him thinking im following him every time we see eachother.

I moved and April 5th my mom texted his mom telling her Im pregnant and he texted me about it and we called an talked. Few weeks after My mom an I where going to go talk to his mom my mom got arrested on are way there so I just ended up talking to his mom alone. His mom wants a DNA test now so he can get in the head space hes going to be a dad and im not going to be catering to his emotions he told me prior even with a dna test he doesnt think he'll even be apart of his life and im standing by the fact I want one when my sons born.

Ive been finding out hes been telling everyone stuff about us mind you I live 3 hours away from him and people where I live freaked out when I showed a picture of him an asked if I was the ex I asked what they meant and they mean he wont shut the fuck up about his ex and constantly talks about her ( me ) and about how crazy I am. They think we just need to shut the fuck up and tell eachother how we feel because hes not over me, im not over him and its obvious with how we talk about eachother.

So all an all should we just try and talk? He let's everyone else's opinions dictate how he feels and told me he had to force himself to stop loving me. Im 23 weeks pregnant and no matter what I do I feel so madly in love with him. All the people I know thats met him to think we should just get back together an think he needs to stop letting other people's opinions dictate how he feels alot of people think he should be there for his son an I. I want to be on good terms with him i just dont know how when once we start talk an are good with eachother it changes a few days to weeks later when he listens to other people. My friends will see him and then me not far behind him or me and then him not far behind me it happens alot. I dont know how to stop loving him and It makes no sense to me why hes acting one way to me and another way to everyone else.

If anyone has any questions ill answer them I just want some outside in put.

Im 19 F my ex is 20m we were together for a month alot happened in that month we were really good together while together spent alot of time together. Did we go to fast? Most definitely. But it was are first time feeling absolutely safe with another person it felt normal and natural. We ended up going to a concert together and spent 5 days together out of town and when we got back it was really cold where we lived and he rode a motorcycle and we didnt see eachother much. Hes the type that doesnt like to go anywhere without a vehicle and I'm the same way. Him an I would talk we just weren't hanging out as much. Which I understood it was cold I just wanted to see him even if it was only for a few minutes.

Welp 2 weeks after we got back from are trip. I said we needed to talk he agreed he said he didnt know what was wrong with him. We met up first thing he said was he wasnt cheating on me and wanted to make that clear. He said he didnt know what happened he said he still liked me he just thinks we went to fast and I agreed. He said he knows it seems like he used me but he swears he didnt and said I could hit him if I want to and he just kept repeating he was sorry and he didn't cheat and he just doesnt know what happend. And I did end up smacking him upside the head and flicking him in between his eye brows he told me he deserved all of it and i tapped his leg with a metal rod and he said he deserved it to I didnt do it hard just playfully. We had one last kiss and planned to revist it in a few months to see if we felt the same way an if we did we planned to get back together.

Later that week I went to California and came back the same day and he was in the city I went to before going back to are town he told me his hotel room number and said I could come and I did and all we did was sleep next to eachother I slept the entire day after I showed up and the day after it when we where sleeping he wrapped his arms around me he said he loved me and to not leave him I said I wouldn't. When he woke up he didnt remember it and I wasnt going to remind him.

A week after that I found out I was pregnant and told him and he freaked out told me to get rid of it and I was an still am young an didnt think I could do it an scheduled an appointment to get the medicated abortion pill and I took it and shortly after he got really distant and we stopped talking. A few weeks later His co worker blocked me on his snap and I saw him an drove past him at 80mph ( stupid I know i was mad and was dealing with some bs with one of my friends). Later that night we called an talked for a few hours and he said he was scared of me and we where laughing and talking for hours before going to bed.

A few weeks after that I went for a follow up appointment with my obgyn and found out I was still pregnant and the abortion had failed. (crazy I know) and I spent a week trying to figure out what to do an I called him i was blocked and I used *67 to call him because he needed to know what was going on. He answered and we met up and talked for a few hours he said he couldn't do much but he would be there and we would figure it out and whatever I wanted to do he would support my decision. I decided to keep the kid. Him an I said we would talk out of town since we both where going out of town to the same place around the same time. A few days after his friends girlfriend messaged me saying hes saying he wants nothing to do with his kid and hes not gonna be on the birth certificate an the day after that his motorcycle got backed into.

The morning we where going he texted me saying " Yea you just pissed me off even more. We will talk tomorrow and your just gonna have to accept whatever is said. We might come to a agreement or to nothing at all. Im going through a shit ton right now and im having a hard time believing a fucking word you say. If you wanna run me off the road now go ahead just know that you ruin your life. I have a lot more people than you think that know everything you have said. If you decide to keep the kid you ruin your own life. Bringing a kid into this world won't bring me back. You need to realize that its only gonna make it worse. We're not together anymore and won't ever be. You have printed out photos of me that you didn't even have when we broke up thats mad odd. We knew each other 29 fucking days *my name* and it didn't work so what thats how it goes sometimes. Dont waste away your young years on another kid that you know I cant help with. You had a random ass mf there the other day. Your telling literally everyone about it what the fuck is up with that. Anyways guess ill see you tomorrow. Don't try to justify shit you know your wrong for."

I responded saying " I understand that *his name* I truly do more than you realize. Im not gonna run you off the road. The picture i printed out when we got back from Phoenix not that you'd know cause everything changed when we got back. It didnt work out I truly dont give a fuck. I don't want you back when we first broke up I did but I havent wanted you back in awhile and I dont think having a kid will change that at all. I told people that Im pregnant so what they ask about the father I tell them and I leave it at that. What did i do to piss you off even more though? You say shit and end up not meaning it at a later date. I know more than you think I do not being werid and creepy or anything I just do. You're going through shit * his name* I know you are your stressed as shit. But yeah we'll talk tomorrow. "

I said alot more stuff I wrote a long paragraph and he said "I think its best we both take some time to calm down and give it a few months."

He blocked me I texted him off text now cause I was pissed I bought a hotel room to talk to him about everything just for us to not talk. We ended up planning to talk and we did and it went good and he ended up bringing me juice later that day.

Few weeks later I found out the gender of my baby and its a boy and I told him he said he doesnt think I cheated on him but he wants a DNA test I said okay and we can look into an I decided I wanted one when my baby is born its my choice and I decided thats what I want to do and still stand by it. And about 2 weeks after that I bought a motorcycle (i know it's stupid because im pregnant)

We talked and he ended up showing up where I was and we went up to are town together my friend rode my bike halfway and his friend rode it the rest of the way. Few days after I was riding around saw 2 bikes and wanted to see who it was an flipped around didnt know where they went an went on my merry way. Ended up seeing him and we where going in the same direction and I flew past him he then texted people saying I was following him and we ended up getting in an argument over the situation and I left the town to stop him thinking im following him every time we see eachother.

I moved and April 5th my mom texted his mom telling her Im pregnant and he texted me about it and we called an talked. Few weeks after My mom an I where going to go talk to his mom my mom got arrested on are way there so I just ended up talking to his mom alone. His mom wants a DNA test now so he can get in the head space hes going to be a dad and im not going to be catering to his emotions he told me prior even with a dna test he doesnt think he'll even be apart of his life and im standing by the fact I want one when my sons born.

Ive been finding out hes been telling everyone stuff about us mind you I live 3 hours away from him and people where I live freaked out when I showed a picture of him an asked if I was the ex I asked what they meant and they mean he wont shut the fuck up about his ex and constantly talks about her ( me ) and about how crazy I am. They think we just need to shut the fuck up and tell eachother how we feel because hes not over me, im not over him and its obvious with how we talk about eachother.

So all an all should we just try and talk? He let's everyone else's opinions dictate how he feels and told me he had to force himself to stop loving me. Im 23 weeks pregnant and no matter what I do I feel so madly in love with him. All the people I know thats met him to think we should just get back together an think he needs to stop letting other people's opinions dictate how he feels alot of people think he should be there for his son an I. I want to be on good terms with him i just dont know how when once we start talk an are good with eachother it changes a few days to weeks later when he listens to other people. My friends will see him and then me not far behind him or me and then him not far behind me it happens alot. I dont know how to stop loving him and It makes no sense to me why hes acting one way to me and another way to everyone else.

If anyone has any questions ill answer them I just want some outside in put.