I didn't grow up watching much football because I didn't understand the game back then, I would just hear about how great he was but the only goal I ever saw him score was in Leo's back garden in Miami.
So basically, how good was he in comparison to the greats of today like Antony, João Felix and Harry Maguire?
Hi all,
As a man who's dealt with a lot of mental health problems throughout my life (& autism + ADHD), I've received a lot of support in the form of coaching and therapy from several different professionals. Whenever the sessions come to an end and they ask how it went, and for feedback, I try and be honest and balanced in the feedback I give, including positive and negative points.
In the positive feedback I give, I often include compliments on areas that I think the coach/therapist is particularly strong in, or that I found particularly helpful. But I've had a couple of experiences where I've told a female coach/therapist that she's 'very knowledgeable' or 'well informed' in her role, and it hasn't seemed to be well received by them (Though maybe I'm reading it wrong). This was said in a serious and genuine way and I've given the same feedback to male coaches/therapists in the past as well, so I don't think this is my unconscious biases at work.
Personally, I wouldn't think to take this feedback as anything other than a compliment. But I'm aware that a lot of women have had experiences of feeling condescended to by men in their careers, like being infantilised or put on a pedestal for literally just doing their job. I'm keen to get some women's takes on this and whether they would find me saying this to them in their professional roles complimentary or rather insulting/condescending.
Lastly, all of this raises the question for me of whether men ought to just avoid giving compliments to women in their professional roles altogether, or whether it can sometimes be appropriate depending on the kind of compliment and how it is given. I think it would be a shame to not feel able to give professional compliments, but I don't want to perpetuate something harmful, regardless of my intentions.
(P.s. Please be kind if I've said anything wrong and just correct me. I'm trying my best, I just struggle with stuff like this).