u/Curioushumannnnnnn

I finally came out today. It took me 15 years to finally admit who I am to my family. I dont know why i did it. I just did.. I was cornered then I just did it.. I know they’re very religious and homophobic but I still did and this is who I am..

As expected, they’re not taking it very well. Saying things like:

- you’re a disgrace to our family

- dont you get embarrassed to your brothers that you’re a lesbian?

- if you knew a long time ago that you’re like that, you should have prayed that g will make you straight and go to the right path

- if you’re a lesbian, you can’t have a girlfriend cause that’s not acceptable, you should control it

- you go to church every sunday but yet you’re like that?

- we have a nice family, you’re going to be the one to destroy it

- you can’t, you can’t be like that.

- you should stop and control for it, it can still be fixed. Just pray

- you’re ruining your life

- don’t you get disgusted that you like another girl?

- i kept praying and praying for you to have a good life, to have a boyfriend, but yet you’re the one contradicting it

- how are you going to get old? Who’s going to take care of you? You’re going to be alone. You won’t have any kids, you won’t have a family.

- you say “that’s just who i am, and i tried to not be” like you’re proud of it????

…and so many more that I can’t even register to my head anymore. I did not shed a tear yet, i haven’t talked to my girlfriend (i think i will then if i talked to her)

I know it’s going to be bad. Everyone in my family will hate me and be disgusted by me. But…i still had a little tiny tiny hope that they will still accept and love me for who i am. But i guess i was wrong..

I kept quiet the whole time.

Idk if i made the right thing to do or i should have just waited a bit more.. i’m 30(F)

Please tell me what your opinion if your gf/bf hides their stories from you? This aint the first time, called her out already about this a couple times. Asked not do it again and again…and she agreed and then she did it AGAIN lately.

To add, we are doing LDR for more years now. We are okay totally but i just cant understand why she needs to do this, like going out of her way to go to settings, scroll through all the names of her followers and tick my name specifically

My head is hurting from thinking and feelings hurt

I already pointed this out AGAIN to her now, she said sorry once, got so cold after like what i did was so wrong for pointing it out. I didnt want to ruin her weekend so i just swallowed everything im feeling but its eating me alive

I want to know your honest opinions about this please.