u/Cup-a-Joe

Hello, I had the coffee cake at Carolyn’s Cafe a while ago and as I’m not a local was curious if anyone knows or has a similar coffee cake recipe to the one they serve.

Hi everyone,

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately and wanted to hear from people who’ve actually lived this.

I’m in a relationship with someone I really love, and non-monogamy is something that’s important to them. I care about them deeply and I’m genuinely trying to understand this lifestyle with an open mind. At the same time, I’m not sure if it fully aligns with who I am—at least not right now.

I guess what I’m struggling with is this: has anyone here not felt naturally comfortable with non-monogamy at first, but eventually grew into it? If so, what did that process look like for you? Was it something that became easier over time, or did your feelings stay kind of mixed?

I’m especially interested in hearing from people who didn’t immediately “click” with it but still gave it a real chance. What helped you adjust (if you did)? And on the flip side, did anyone try and realize it ultimately wasn’t right for them?

I’m not looking to be convinced one way or the other—I just want to understand the range of real experiences so I can be honest with myself and my partner.

Thanks in advance for sharing. I really appreciate it.