u/CultureOpening6730

I (43m) divorced a year ago, and I’ve been more actively dating over the last few months. I’ve found that my profession has made it challenging to start new relationships and I’m not sure how to fix it.

I am a professional writer, and the last few years have become very involved in the erotica genre (smut, to some). I’ve built a following and have found this may be a sustainable career for me.

When asked on dates what I do for a living, I have been open about writing erotica. I’m not ashamed of it, after all. But I’ve found this disclosure kind of short circuits growth of relationships — either (1) it’s a turn off or comes off as overly mysterious or creepy, or (2) it puts the conversation immediately in a sexual place, before it feels appropriate.

I’m proud of my writing and the creativity that goes into it, but I want to find the right way and the right time to introduce it to women I date. I haven’t cracked the code and I’d be open to ideas.

I (43m) divorced a year ago, and I’ve been more actively dating over the last few months. I’ve found that my profession has made it challenging to start new relationships and I’m not sure how to fix it.

I am a professional writer, and the last few years have become very involved in the erotica genre (smut, to some). I’ve built a following and have found this may be a sustainable career for me.

When asked on dates what I do for a living, I have been open about writing erotica. I’m not ashamed of it, after all. But I’ve found this disclosure kind of short circuits growth of relationships — either (1) it’s a turn off or comes off as overly mysterious or creepy, or (2) it puts the conversation immediately in a sexual place, before it feels appropriate.

I’m proud of my writing and the creativity that goes into it, but I want to find the right way and the right time to introduce it to women I date. I haven’t cracked the code and I’d be open to ideas.