My fiancé and I were together for 4 years, around a month ago we broke it off due to fundamental issues with our relationship. We lacked respect for each other and treated each other as roommates. He moved out and was planning on getting his own apartment. We wanted to work through our problems and see if we could be better for each other. Things were going well, we were talking and going on dates and things felt really nice.
Around 2 months ago before the split I got a routine pap smear, they called me yesterday to tell me I had an abnormal pap smear and was positive for HPV. I immediately called my partner and told him I had the virus. He was very upset and accused me of cheating. I am not sure if he or I had the virus first but he has had much less sexual partners than me so I feel like the blame is on me.
After he did some research of his own he told me it can be dormant and flare up randomly so he no longer thinks I cheated on him but he said he does not want to put him self at risk for cancer because of the HPV. He said this is the universe making sure we stay a part from each other. He no longer wants to be with me because of this.
I respect his decision to end the relationship but I cant help but feel like he hasn’t done enough research on the virus. It is very common and he is making me feel like he is disgusted by me. We went from being so in love again to this and i’m having a very hard time coping with it. I’m not sure if it is even worth asking him to do more research on the virus since I want to respect his space.
how do I cope with him leaving me over this? I just want to feel better about the situation.